If like me you have issues with tendencies to people-please against your own self-interest, I have what may be a helpful perspective. Consider the idea that each of us has his own story to create. We’re here to make a movie. We are writing the script as we go along and we are enlisting each other as supporting actors in our movie.
But each of us must remember that we all have our own distinct movie and when we interact our movies are intersecting. Sometimes this creates conflict, sometimes it creates value and pleasure.
Soon Saturn will go into Sagittarius and square Neptune. Neptune rules such nebulous, creative things as making our own movie as a life concept! Saturn is reality, and Jupiter (broadcasting a life model) rules Sagittarius. Jupiter is an adventure, a story!
This square will often pit the moviemaker-director against others’ model of reality in order to advance the plot through conflict!
As this starts happening for you, remember: You appear in everyone else’s movie, by choice or by happenstance, as a secondary character. They are director, writer, and star of their movie, as you are in yours. They may be trying to elicit a particular response from you that furthers their own plot.
You’ll want to be helpful and kind, but don’t forget to direct your own movie while it intersects theirs. You write your own lines and act in accordance with your own goals and perspective. If someone else is a bad director or oversteps their role, you can walk off set or renegotiate. Don’t let them ruin YOUR movie. Take control (Saturn) of your own story (Jupiter). Drive your own plot! You are both the authority on your story and the creative director.