I know people who make decisions to do people certain favors when the favor may not be a favor at all. I am not talking about my personal life here. I am talking about people who come up with blanket rules around various things with good intentions but bad results and I am a classic example.
Many times I have thought and proclaimed that I would mind what I wrote here very closely as to quit making enemies or whatever may be driving me at the time. I have a good intention but if I actually managed to achieve this the idea that good would come of it is dubious.
As another example, there are situations where people have a negative experience with someone and decide to never, ever be like that person or do what that person did. Sometimes this may be a good choice but more frequently the person restrains of limits themselves to such a degree it can compared to cutting off your leg to save a toe. Basically, they over-learn the lesson and sometimes there is a bitterness involved which is rarely (if ever) good.
Have you ever done this?