I was talking to a person on the periphery of his life, about the risks of this person spinning out because they just don’t have the skills or experience to process the trauma. When you’re 40 years old and the bad thing always happens to someone else, I think it’s pretty easy to believe it’s always going to be that way and then something like this happens.
Personally, I am worried about the guy. Having lived a life made up of trauma and loss, I can tell you that coping skills are something you have to develop and you just can’t do this overnight. Just imagine this. You’re 40-something, you’ve lived your whole life in the cat-bird seat and all the sudden, WHAM. WHAM! BAM! SLAM!
It’s the sudden death I wrote about with the Venus, Uranus, Pluto t-square, but it’s not just the death of the family member. It is the death of this man and his land of milk and honey and personally I feel really bad. I’d like to help him but people like him don’t know people like me, ya know? So I just have to look at it and cringe. And try to help through the periphery person of course because you know what? I wouldn’t wish his experience on my worst enemy.
Have you experienced this or known of someone who has?