Hi Elsa, I’m in college, and currently live at home. My mum is chronically ill, and was recently diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis in her hands and feet. She and I have issues dealing with one another at the best of … Read More…
My life is going perfectly, and yet I’m not happy! Or rather, I’m a worried, anxious mess. I recently got engaged, to a wonderful man who I’m absolutely head over heels in love with. My daughter is a delightful, intelligent, loving little girl. We just bought a beautiful house in a nice neighborhood and I just got a new job with a really cool non-profit.
But I just can’t seem to feel better. It’s like I’ve struggled so long to get to where I am – I mean, really fought HARD to achieve this – and now I can’t relax at all. It all seems so precarious. And I’m normally a fairly happy-go-lucky person.
Am I crazy? Am I not astrologically cut out for comfort? I’ve actually had dreams of having an affair, and I would NEVER have an affair! My guy is my best friend. I’ve also been looking at houses online, even though I adore our house. It’s like I’m still questioning all of these choices.
What the hell is wrong with me right now?
Dear Elsa, For the past six months, I’ve been worried I was HIV positive. I finally took an AIDS test, and came out negative. I have doubts though, because I still feel very sick. I’ve consulted the doctor about my … Read More…
Dear Elsa, I need closure. Several years ago, I tried to have a serious relationship with a good friend of mine. But he was in the military and in no way interested in settling down. Despite being 3000 miles apart, … Read More…
Hi Elsa, My husband and I are having serious problems right now. We’ve been married almost ten years. The list of issues is too long to go into, but I’m beginning to feel like I’m just waiting for the ball … Read More…
Hi Elsa, I am feeling really funky lately and it’s a feeling that comes back to me repeatedly. I get very paranoid about my relationship and tend to either lash out in anger or sink into depression. I try not … Read More…
Hi Elsa My question is around friendships. I don’t seem to be able to MAKE friends – and when I do, I don’t seem to be able to KEEP them. Or, the people don’t seem to match up to the … Read More…
Lately I have been wondering if there’s something about me that makes me blind to the glaring, glaring danger signs of the people I date. The last guy I was in a relationship with, we dated for a year until I found out he had been cheating on me and I broke up with him. Then almost as soon as I realized he was a dishonest person, all of these other things rose up in my mind, things I had known all along but excused-like his lack of honor, cowardice, selfishness, arrogance, etc.-and made it very clear that I had been making straw into gold all along.
I am afraid that I will keep choosing guys who are completely wrong for me. I don’t want to keep being blind to these faults and flaws and make excuses for them. Do you have any insight as to why I do this, and what I can do about it to stop this?
Blinded by love
I’m independent from my parents and my mom and I have a number of disagreements. Matter of fact, at the moment, I’m disowned. I find her condescending and domineering – she finds me whiny and petulant.
We saw each other recently and it was the same old pattern…her considering me a mess, despite the fact that everything I’ve done in the past year has been without her assistance (this includes getting my license, getting a car, paying a year of tuition, getting accepted to study in Europe over the summer). She would like to view me separately from the conditions of my life right now, cause she doesn’t like them. That frustrates me. Will this woman ever see me as a capable individual? Will I stop trying to prove to her that I am?
I have a 3.6 carrying 20 credits and working four days a week in university, I’m double majoring and minoring…this seems to impress everyone BUT her. Situation ever gonna get better? Are we capable of looking at stuff the same way? If we are – how hard will it be?
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