MahEggo commented “… I always know when people don’t like me right off the bat…”
Lilly followed up: “ditto to MahEggo’s answer…I know right away when they DON’T like me…”
This is a hot topic in Elsa-world. I also know when people don’t like me and sometimes it’s straightforward like that. But frequently I meet people who don’t like me but don’t know it! I’m wondering if other have experienced this. I was chatting to a friend.completely frustrated…
“Well the guy hates me, this is the problem! And I have no idea why he doesn’t know it. I suppose I could tell him, save him staying up late at night trying to figure it out. I could say, look guy. You don’t like me! That’s what is going on. I bother you. This is why every compliment you give me is wrapped in an insult. This is why every insult is wrapped in a compliment. I would just as soon speed this up! How about we fast forward to the part where you go off hating my guts because you already do. I won’t mind because I’m sick to death of the tiresome bother of waiting for you to figure it out!”
I am tired of starring in people’s psychodramas.
I participated in psychodrama when I was in therapy, 30 years ago. I had to stand there and look menacing like someone’s father. I didn’t like it. I don’t want to play pretend. I want to be myself. I assure you I am not your oppressive father or your devouring mother or any other damned thing!
I’ve learned, when I find myself cast in someone’s psychodrama, often times I can hit the kill switch myself. I don’t have to allow a person to work out their issues on my time. And there’s no harm done, because as soon as you cut the energy to the hologram, the person wanders off and finds another person to project onto, usually within a day!
What a revelation.
Can anyone relate or am I on my own here?