This is vintage blogging and I mean, it dates back to 2001! I’m going to leave it unedited because I like my voice back then. I also still agree with myself!
This is for people who have a profoundly screwed up or difficult life. It’s something I’ve learned that maybe you can use.
About ten years ago, my sister and I were in intensive psychotherapy. As individuals I mean, but at the same time. The situation was egregious by anyone standards and as it turned out, we both spent more than three years in weekly session.
Now during this time people felt sorry for us. Well, more specifically, they felt sorry for my sister. By nature of some phenomenon, I almost never inspire sympathy in people. This is not important to the story, just an interesting bit. My sister, target of so many people’s pity made some astute observations.
“They keep telling me how sorry they are for me. They cry for me, and I keep telling them to feel sorry for themselves. We’re lucky that our problems are profound enough to force us to deal with them. I wouldn’t want their life for shit!”
She felt that the people who were so full of pity for her were screwed up themselves. Some of them, pathetically so. They were living crippled lives to whatever degree, but their problems were not acute enough to force creative action.
Consequently they were able to spend their lives pointing a people like us as people having obvious difficulty, while ignoring their own problems. They looked at us and felt sorry for our plight. The fact that we needed therapy. We looked at them and felt sorry right back.
Now what happens over time, is my sister and I work things through. We really puke it up because we just don’t have a choice. Pluto was in Scorpio. It was time. So we get in there. We get dirty. We get filthy even and then we go on to live rich, enhanced lives.
The people who pitied us, projected their problems on to us, did nothing, and they have seen their lives degrade from the inside out. Obviously, this is the kind of thing accrues interest (or debt) over time.
This is baffling to them because they are unhappy, but unable to identify that they have a problem. It has always been other people with the problem and my point, as I indicated up front, is that sometimes it is better to have a problem, even a BIG STINKIN’ HUGE problem. If this is you, take heart.
Trines are considered easy aspects. Spots in your life that just flow. People just starting to learn astrology are taught that trines are good and squares are bad, but as you study more people and more charts, you find example after example of people with difficult charts who excel, because they have to. Because there is an acute spot, or even a majority of a life, that cannot be ignored.
Compare it to a chart of trines. Some astrologers call them “lazy”. Granted, many of these astrologers may lack trines in their chart and they may have bias, but don’t miss the point.
If your life appears to work well (enough) – there are (enough) things that come easy to you, then this leaves you the option to dissociate yourself from parts of your psyche, parts of your character, that are more dark and troublesome.
“I am okay ———> They need therapy.”
The mother of all the trines, is the Grand Trine. A Grand Trine is made up of three planets in one of the elements (earth, fire, air, water) that provide easy support to each other. If you have one of these in your chart, a novice astrologer may tell you that it the most desirable configuration you could buy. Lucky you! A more experienced astrologer would tell you that the best is potentially the worse, in equal proportion, primarily for the reasons I just outlined.
If you take a chart as a whole (and you should) then the grand trine in the chart would be like someone heart and lungs working together without impediment. Or you could compare a person who is physically beautiful. This gives that person a choice to focus there, right? Trouble is, it’s the cancer in the bowel that kills them.
If you have major problems, your odds of pulling out are excellent, as long as you are willing to pull. What you are not going to be able to do, is live a flaccid life. You only need to act, because the energy is there. It constellates around your, otherwise you would not have an acute problem in the first place.
What I mean is your curse is your gift in exact proportion. You’ve an abundance of energy to use in anyway you choose to, and you are MORE likely to kick butt than the person who seemingly has it easy.
What you are not going to be able to do is avoid living a dynamic life and for that, you can thank your lucky stars. A lot of this has to do with redefining what is desirable in life. We think that we want a cake walk through our lives, when in reality, nothing could be more perfectly killing than that.
This was written six years later. It links to a video where I talk more about this phenomenon.
Do you find yourself spending a lot of time analyzing others?
Do you feel you have problems, but maybe not so bad you need to work on them?
Or did you get you butt kicked so bad, you had no choice but to examine your life?