Like my son, some of my friends, my clients and the people who write me for advice are benefiting from my association with the soldier. I have taken to straight out asking for his opinion in certain circumstances.
I specifically consult with him when a man’s behavior is involved and the situation is not clear to me because invariably he can tell me what the man is up to in about 4 seconds and this is enormously helpful and valuable.
It has also made me aware how easy women get wrapped around the axle when it comes to men and also how often they feed each other’s chaos as well. Bottom line the women get together to speculate what the man is up and the general assumption is that he’s up to in no good.
But what I am learning these days is women have this wrong as a matter of routine. According to the soldier, in many (most) cases the man actually is into the woman, the woman just does not understand what’s going on at all. And since I started looping him in for purposes of translation every woman I know has seen her relationships with men improve and they are all so relieved. “You mean he’s not an asshole? You mean he actually likes me? Allll right!” And believe it or not, I think this is a Pluto in Capricorn topic.
I say that because I think one of the major themes of the next 10 years or so will be the shadow side of parenting. I think parenting is just plain broken and the main reason is the division between women and men and this is going to be a major topic on this blog over these next years. It will be a slow start seeing as Pluto is going to retrograde back into Sagittarius but let me ask you this:
Have you felt, seen or experienced even the slightest crack in the foundation of what you think of the opposite sex?