I’m experiencing the lack of challenge and growth in my one and one half year long relationship with my boyfriend. We have the same birthdate. Late November. Same year.
We are both difficult, stubborn, angry bitches and hard to live with. So much connection, friendship, passion, things in common personality-wise and deep love too. We are apart at the moment, having our first break. We feel we should be together but don’t know if we have it in us to work so hard. Are we meant to be?
The birthday thing has always been so interesting to me. I would love your insight.
Saggitarius On A Break
Hi, Sagittarius. It’s interesting to me as well. Unfortunately, I don’t think there is a one answer to this question.
I have never come across a long-lasting or lifelong relationship where the two people were born on the same day. The same week – yes. There are a few things to consider when evaluating a situation like this.
First, what does the (close to) common chart, look like? If it describes a person who likes a lot of familiarity, the potential the relationship would last would be greater than it the common chart describes a wanderer-type person.
You’d also want to look at the 7th house in both the charts. If one of them has Mars in the 7th and prefers friction and challenge in relationship, this would probably indicate this kissing cousin thing is not their bag. Same with Jupiter in the 7th or Uranus.
Generally speaking, a mix is probably best. Most couples have the slower moving outer planets in common. They’re from the same generation, which does come into play.
For example, my husband and I are in a band with people much younger than we are. He’s a guitarist. He took off playing so hit song from our era, while on a break. The woman next to me, who is fifteen years younger, listened intently, straining to place it. “House Of The Rising Sun.” I said. Then it came to her.
You can see how this commonality would tie two people together. But what you’re describing is two people who look in a mirror and are horrified, at least to some extent.
This does not mean you can’t make it as couple. I’m sure you can, if you choose too. But you will be dealing with being closely associated so if you don’t want that, then this has been a nice experiment – get out now.
Are you and your partner astro-twins?
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