Elsa – Can you talk about late marriages in astrology? I have Saturn in 7th house (Cancer), squaring Jupiter and trining my Sun. I’m 47, an accomplished professional and still not married. If most people in the Western world get married before 35…what’s the deal with folks like myself? For culture background: living in USA and Jewish. Happy to provide more details, if necessary. In fact, I’m willing to drop in my chart so people can provide feedback. I can take any feedback/insight like a champ. (Pisces Sun/Capricorn Rising).
There are many reasons people delay marriage. Some of the reasons may show in a chart but societal influence plays a big part as well.
There are multiple indications of delay or difficulty partnering in your chart. In a different era, you probably would have married young, anyway, simply because that’s what people did. I can’t say you’d have been happy. I can say, it’s not surprising you’re single, based your chart. I’ll explain.
Capricorn rising has Saturn influencing their relationship sphere. This is a Venus Saturn signature which commonly sees a person find love later in life. In a different era, the person may have married young, but the marriage would be serious and even difficult. That’s not the end of the world, but you can see how our culture teaches against such a thing. Everyone seeks to be free and light on their feet, even if they’re not designed for this!
I have a Capricorn rising. When I was younger, practical concerns in love were scoffed at, but the fact is, a person like me wants structure. I want commitment. I do not want to invest in a frivolous relationship, beyond some weekend fling. I’m not going to stick with that. I want something real. This is non-sexy and out of vogue for a twenty year old today, so problematic.
In your case, you have Saturn in your 7th house, which reinforces this signature. You’re really not cut out for unstructured, nonserious love. But here you are, living in a time when it’s what’s on offer for the most part.
To further complicate your situation, you have Venus in Aquarius which is often commitment-phobic. It plays well with your Mars and moon in Gemini.
You had two choices here: serious marriage (deal with Saturn), or keep it light (Air signs). You also have Aries which is quite independent. It sounds like you went with the Air / Fire option, which would be easiest in this era. You satisfied your desire for structure with your career, emphasized.
Now you feel the lack of relationship (Saturn in 7th) and the good news, it can be addressed. Asking this question can be the start of that.
I recommend this workshop to anyone with a Venus/Saturn signature in their chart: even if they’re in a relationship, just for the clarification and support for the type of person you are. It is OKAY to not want to pour your love and money and effort into something that’s not going to last of be sustained. When it’s stated plainly, it’s hard to deny.
Saturn in the 7th house will benefit greatly from defining what they want and rejecting that which falls outside their definition. It’s about accepting limits, in large part. And reality.
Are you getting older and struggling to partner?