Saturn is as interesting as any other planet we’ve got out there though rarely credited as such. Reality is humbling by it’s nature. Limits when you hit them always seem to be in a place you should have realized they’d be had you been thinking and had your feet on the ground. The people who die in circumstances that earn them a spot on the Darwin Awards serve as examples.
I have pretty good boundaries. If you tell me to go away, make it known I’m not welcome, I will catch on. If you draw a line and ask me not to cross it, I will honor your line and if not I will expect there be consequences or at least that I will be rejected.
I was not born knowing this. I learned it and in some cases I learned it the hard way but I learned it when I was young. People who reach middle-age and beyond, more who have not learned it, scare me.
Further, I have little compassion for them when they get what is coming… when the consequences that have been promised are delivered because come on. Who should pay the price for the arrogant person in denial but the person themselves? I have a graphic example of this and I use it deliberately to make an impression.
Some years ago the soldier was at the dentist getting his teeth cleaned. The gal put her hand on his chest, holding him down in the chair… this is something that makes him quite intensely uncomfortable.
It triggers him and he knows this so when he she put her hand on his chest and pushed, he asked her take her hand off his chest and she ignored him. She asked her again (politely) to take her hand off his chest, she again ignored him, he asked a third time and she told him that she was not going to take her hand off his chest, “I have to have it here,” and at that point the soldier put her in a choke hold.
Now I am sure he scared the living shit out of this gal but I don’t feel sorry for her at all. Did she not hear what he said? Who is she that she gets to ignore this other human being when he’s talking to her?
To finish the story, this ended the appointment. The soldier paid and found a new dentist who could manage to clean his teeth without pressing his/her hand into his chest but you get the point. Do you listen to people? Do they listen to you?
I am always amazed how someone is amazed their lover leaves them when they have been warned some fifty times, they are going to wind up leaving if the partner continues to do x, y, z that annoys them. I figure they must have no boundaries themselves and assume everyone else is the same or in other cases they may think rules don’t apply to them?
When they find the rules DO apply to them it is invariably humbling and I think this story is as interesting as any other out there, ya know?