I am SO confused about a recent break-up. I’ve never been so WOWED by a guy right from the start. Not necessarily by his looks – although I started thinking he was really good looking after a date or two. But from our very first emails and dates, I just had such a complete sense of comfort and ease around him.
After we were dating for just a few weeks, he told his sister that he thought he’d met the girl he would marry. I was starting to feel the same way, that I had really met a soulmate. But then the relationship got physical early, and unfortunately that didn’t click so smoothly right off the bat. Not soon after that, he decided he was getting “cold feet”.
The break-up was civil – but I haven’t contacted him since then nor vice-versa. Yet I still think about him ALL the time. I just want to live my life without regrets. Should I try to contact him or work things out?
I was curious why your guy may have bolted, so I studied his chart. I don’t deny some affinity between his chart and yours, but basically this is a guy with some fairly serious issues.
You on the other hand, have the wind in your hair. You’re buoyant, communicative, sexy, smart and independent. So why are you stuck on this guy?
Well, I don’t think you are, actually. You’re just confused. He seemed ideal initially but in fact, you didn’t really like his look. What you did, with your seventh house Neptune, is transcend his appearance. You erased this deficit and created a new reality.
Next, the sex sucked and guess what? You did it again! Can you see how you were compensating for this guy’s shortcomings?
And why not? You have a relatively unlimited capacity to love and to give. And when you have a muscle like that, it likes to be used. So I think that’s what happened. You started with an illusion and every time a tear in the fabric appeared, you repaired it.
I say let the guy go. I think he left for reasons that have nothing to do with you and not only that, I think it was your lucky day.
pictured – Portrait of Andrea Doria as Neptune, 1550-55, Agnolo Bronzino (b. 1503, Firenze, d. 1572, Firenze) Oil on canvas, Pinacoteca di Brera, Milan