A gal I know discovered the deep root of her pathology, today. As an aside she also uncovered the origin of the behavior of some of the other people in her life.
For example she could look back at her first marriage and see that she was doing one thing for one reason and her husband was doing another thing for another reason.
The stuff she caught onto was very deep. It was at a level that would change her paradigm forever. This quickly shook something loose in me.
“There is no sense telling someone something like that,” I said, without a split second of thought.
She asked what I meant.
“They’ll never be able to change it,” I said. “It’s too deep. It would be like getting the Italian out of me. I don’t think it’s possible. There are patterns of behavior that are just too ingrained. For example I am always going to sit around a table, talk and eat. You can tell me it’s not right or polite. I might even agree with you but I’d still do it. The behaviors and thought patterns, the rules of my culture are just too deeply embedded.”
I mention this because people so frequently try to fix people or change them. We all know this is impossible. I’m suggesting is there are some things a person is powerless to change. I would look to the Moon in the natal chart.
Can you name something about you that is absolutely HARD WIRED? Where is your Moon?