One of the most common zodiac stereotypes you’ll hear is that Cancers cry all the time. From beginner’s books to memes to hushed conversations between friends, everyone seems convinced that Cancer is all weeping all the time. Being a noted lover of the sign, I feel compelled to dispel the myth!
Cancer is far from a crybaby. It’s true that they are a deeply sensitive, emotional sign. But their hurt feelings are far more likely to result in a still upper lip and an element of machismo for many men, a silent look of reproach for many women. Being raised by a Cancer father, I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen him cry. And many Cancers never cry at all. There are two primary reasons for this.
First, Cancer is Cardinal water. Cardinal signs are the tip of the spear, moving forward in any way necessary. Water is of course associated with emotionality. Cancer, then, has an innate understanding of emotions as a tool, even a weapon. And they’re not about to waste their advantage with a crying fit. They have far too much interest in control for that, both of themselves and of the situations they’re in. They’re not going to tip their hand.
The other reason is that Cancers are self-protective. Just like the crab for which they’re named, Cancers have a protective shell into which they retreat at the first sign of danger. In fact, the best way to know that you’ve hurt this sign is when they shut down entirely. They retreat, lick their wounds, and strategize. And the only way to stop this process is to acknowledge their feelings (even if they won’t) and offer a sincere apology.
So while it can’t be denied that Cancer is an emotional sign, it’s not fair to equate that with crying or tantrums. Instead, Cancer withdraws and finds a way to use their pain as a weapon. So the next time you hear someone call Cancer a crybaby, why not shut down and give then a good glare instead?