joana writes regarding patterns in relationship:
“The other day I had a trip down memory lane and realized that an ex of mine was more present than I thought he was. In short, it felt like some of the male figures in my life lately were also him (i.e. they brought up the same issues and feelings).
So my question was: are we always with the same man for the rest of our lives? Or alternatively do we have two or three male figures that we tend to attract over and over again? Or even…is every man really different? Is it us and our perception that make them feel like they’re all the same?
Joana, what a great, vague and complex question!
The men I have known have a lot in common in that they are all iconoclasts although this energy takes different forms. My sister and I came to the conclusion some years ago that any man we would become involved with would have to embody the energy of the 3 main players (parents / authority figures) in our lives, that is our mother, our father and our grandfather, Henry who lived next door and also raised us. Bottom line if a man does not meet this criteria, he’s not getting in and in our case, all three players were eccentric to the extreme so that is that. (7th house Uranus)
In a sense you do meet the same partner in that they share certain elements but each person applies their energy in a unique way and even their way changes over time. Take the soldier.
He just got on a plane after 14 years. Not only that, he (happily) hugged people during our visit which is something he never does so this person (while still his father) is virtually unrecognizable to his son.
Point is, it is always changing and always interesting. Matter of fact if your relationship is not changing and not interesting it is probably you that is the bore.