Last summer I met Mr. Aquarius at a party, and we had sparks right away. But soon after, I had to travel back home to a different country. He SMS’d right away telling me he liked me & wanted to be friends. We started our virtual long distance relationship & grew really close in Dec, even had daily calls with each other. I went back to see him mid of Feb and we spent a fantastic week together.
He called me when I’d returned & told me how much he enjoyed being with me & that he thinks we make a great match – BUT he’s just coming out of a 4 yr relationship with his ex & though she’s stopped calling him, her friends continue to call & ask him to go back to her in hopes of marriage.
He said that his relationship with her is over, but needs time to completely get her out of his system. I told him he needs to clarify where I stand in our relationship. He’s made it clear he’s not moving countries & yet knows that I will move to be with him.
His grandma just passed away & he said we’d talk later. It’s now 10 days and he’s not contacted me. I’ve SMS’s him 3 times over the past week letting him know he can count on me for support as a good friend in this time. Now, I’m panicking because I’m afraid he’s never going to call me back. Was I too emotional? Did I ask for too much? What should I do if he doesn’t contact me?
Please help me…
Deeply Blue Girl
No you were not too emotional and no you did not ask for too much. You were honest and you asked for what you wanted, which is inordinately healthy regardless of how another person responds.
Now I am sorry, but I do think this man is gone. I imagine he is not responding because he feels he has already told you he is gone and does not want to tell you again. And it does seem this guy is a player. I mean, he’s got you on the line, his ex-girlfriend on the line and I bet you anything he’s got (or is out looking) for a 3rd or a 4th woman he can have on the line. So I think you’re better he’s gone and hopefully he will stay that way. Because I think it’s clear there is no future for you with him, and this is not your fault!
In fact, I think you can be very proud of yourself and your handling of this relationship. You opened your heart, and you offered your love and your friendship. You acted with integrity, and you put your money where your mouth is, so how can that be bad? I don’t think it is. I think you are a good woman taken in by a not so good man, but what does that mean?
It’s means you are a good woman and he is a not so good man! So I am very sorry you had to learn this… I am sorry this happened to you, but I am even sorrier for him: a man who engages a woman in another country, flies her in for a fling, well aware she is more involved than he is and then dumps her when she gets home. Ugh. I doubt his grandma died, see? I think he’s a liar and I am very sorry. I see your Moon in Scorpio, and know this is a tremendous betrayal.
My advice? Dump his number, cry your tears and fish another line. And definitely stop contacting him…
Much love and good luck.