This guy is driving me crazy and I don’t know what to think or feel anymore. We went out with each other for a short blissful time that was almost too perfect, and at it’s peak, I ran for it. I have a pattern of doing this and I don’t always know why.
Well that wasn’t the end of us. I characterize our relationship as that of fire. The flame never really died down, and even after we broke up, we saw each other on and off. I felt consumed by him and the attraction we had towards each other.
The flame seemed to die down a bit and we avoided each other. He went out with someone like me, but more stable. So he’s been with this girl for over a year now. We stayed away from each other until about five months into their relationship. But once again we couldn’t stay away, so we resulted to talking on the phone and imagining being around each other instead of really being with each other. The few times we see each other, I can sense the heat and that magnetic pull and it drives me crazy!
The thing is, that fire hasn’t died down, and I’m starting to feel for this person again, and stronger than I did when we were together almost three years ago. Should I let it go, and stop talking to him forever, or are we meant to see this affair through?
I have a policy: I refuse to burn and pine and writhe around over a man who is with another woman. You are 17 years old and you probably don’t have many policies yet… so feel free to adopt mine, it’s a good one. Because often – especially when you have a stellium in Scorpio like yours, or a packed 8th house like mine – when you take your energy off these guys they come running for you.
Not that I am suggesting you manipulate this guy. I am just trying to tell you, I don’t think you’re going anywhere good, dreaming and pining for another woman’s man regardless of the energy that constellates between you.
That said, I admit the two of you have an intense chemistry. Thing is, as you are well aware this does not always result in a relationship that functions.
For example, say you are a concert. And say you’re in the audience there and you have intense chemistry with one of the guitar players. And this happens you know. It happens and it’s real, however chances are you are not going to wind up with that guy. Why? Because he is going to a new city the next day. And there will be another girl in the audience and some more chemistry, because this is how the world works.
So if I were you, I would use my innate Aquarian ability to detach and just figure this guy a passing-by guitar player… unless and until he breaks with the other woman and shows up wanting to be devoted to you.