I was talking to my husband and Jilly about a gal who’s upset with me. It’s a story I’ve told over and over on this blog. If there is a group of people and someone needs to throw a shadow on someone, it’s going to be me.
The person is upset with me for having the exact same thoughts and feelings as every other person in the group. Rather than see their problem is universal, all the trouble is focused on me.
In reality, I am the least important person to them, which is probably another reason I’m chosen. There’s a “discardable” tag on my forehead.
I don’t like this of course. Why am I always the one under the black cloud? I realize there’s nothing I can do. It’s a band-aid of some sort the person has to have. The problem isn’t personal, it’s Elsa.
We’ve talked about projection here a lot, over the years. My husband made a remark that made me think beyond the thoughts I’ve had before. He said she was an adult, playing a kid’s game. Think about that.
Kids do all kinds of things in groups, don’t they? They bully, they shun, they blame, they project…
Then ask yourself this: are you an adult playing a kid’s game?
If so, what’s your game? Why do you do it? Are you able to stop? Do you want to stop?