I made a comment on the post about getting your power back, noting that I used the used the word, “resolved” not “recovered”. I said it was an important distinction.
Someone asked me to elaborate: “I’m curious. What is “recovered” to you vs. “resolved”?”
It’s a good question and I have an easy-to-understand answer.
Let’s say you lose all your money. Some steals it or you invest it poorly or whatever. You may not be able to recover your losses.
You may not be able to recover your losses in a divorce.
You may not be able to recover lost time.
You may not be able to recover from losing a child or whatever it is.
But you can resolve these things.
To have something resolved means that you’ve come to terms with it. You’ve suffered, you’ve grieved, you tried things, maybe many things, and failed, but finally you have accepted your loss.
I don’t care if the loss is unacceptable. If you’re going to regain your power, you’re going to have to accept that which is unacceptable. If you can’t do this then I guess you just stand there holding the weight, or wearing a sign on your forehead, or just crying endlessly until you’ve lost your mind.
I don’t mean to be mean. But there are people out there who have lost all their children. There are people out there who lost their parents before they ever hit kindergarten. There are people who have lost fortunes, lost their health, their ability to walk – you name it. Does any of this sound acceptable?
None of it is acceptable, but people accept these things that happen and they have since the beginning of time.
When I (personally) say a thing is resolved, it means it’s decided. I’ve decided to accept the horrible loss and move on without the chunk of whatever it is, that I used to have and no longer do.
Then when someone says, “Elsa, what about this loss..”
I say, “Yes, that happened.”
And I don’t say much more. Because it’s resolved, see?
It’s like losing your leg. You’re not getting your leg back, but coming to terms with the fact is possible. You still won’t have a leg. You won’t recover. But you will live without your leg and you may live better without it then you ever did with it!
That’s another point. To think your life will be worse post the loss, than it was prior to the loss is big assumption, with high odds of being UNTRUE.