I’m a Scorpio rising, and have Sun, Venus and Jupiter in Scorpio. Apparently, I’m meant to be a super sexual person. But I’m the most sexually repressed person I know!
I’ve had sex only once, a drunken one night stand three years ago. I have had no desire to have sex before or since. It doesn’t usually bother me as I have no real desire to have sex with anyone although I do masturbate, which is satisfying enough for me. Sometimes I do feel I’m missing out when my friends talk about sex, as everyone else seems to love and desire it apart from me. A couple of relationships have failed in the last few years because I didn’t want to be physically intimate. I like dating, talking, doing stuff together but that’s where it ends for me, and of course I know not many men will accept that and I don’t really expect them to either. I don’t have any past issues I can think of that have made me this way.
Recently, a male acquaintance drunkenly pointed out in front of my friends on a night out that he knows I won’t have sex with anyone. He hit on me once and I turned him down, but the thing is, he’s right. I just felt exposed and humiliated that someone who doesn’t even know me all that well observed this about me, as I’m a private person and keep myself to myself most of the time.
The real problem is, I’ve just started seeing a guy in the last two weeks and I’m already starting to feel apprehensive. I know the subject of sex will come up soon, he’s already sending me sexually suggestive text messages. I don’t want yet another relationship to be spoiled even before it gets off the ground because of my asexual ways, and at 25, I feel I probably should really be getting over this. Why can I not tap into my supposedly sexual Scorpio energies? Is there something in my chart that is blocking them?
I am not sure you’re broken so I would take care in trying to fix anything. No you are not “blocked”. It is exactly opposite that. You are an exceedingly ethereal and float-y person and it may be that physical sex is somewhat gross to someone so transcendent.
Basically here’s your deal: You have a packed 12th house, and Neptune (dissipate) conjunct your Mars (sex drive). Your whole chart is beautifully strung and this is reflected in the fact you are so comfortable with what you are. It’s very, Alfred E. Newman, famous for his line, “What? Me Worry?”
And if you re-read your post you will see it is almost as if you are trying to “get it up” and concern yourself with what others think you should be concerned with and you can do this if you want. Part of you likes to experiment so go right ahead. I would only warn you not to take on someone else’s idea there is something wrong with you because this is not the case.
There are men and women out there who eschew sex and feel perfectly fine. A Catholic nun would be a good example of this… she simply has other (larger) things on her mind.
And just remember this: Scorpio wields power. But sexuality is just one expression of that.