Over the last couple days there have been a slew of comments that characterize Virgos as controlling. I don’t get this at all. I consider the Cardinal signs to be the control freaks of the zodiac without question.

Now don’t get pissed off at me, I have both Capricorn and Libra prominent and it takes one to know but for the people who think Virgos are controlling – Please ‘splain to Lucy.

In my mind, Virgos communicate what is wrong with you and then go off to do their other work. Um…

Who is the control freak King (or Queen) of the zodiac?

Dear Beleaguered,

I feel very bad for you because it seems you are surrounded by the enemy. Just who is on your side here? No one I can identify.

Now I am very sorry but I don’t think your situation is likely to work out and your husband is the reason why. He is not really married to you, is he? He is married to his mother, to his mother’s mother, to his friends and to his motherland. And if you will accept all this, then fine. He’ll be married to you too and if not? Well then apparently you can kiss his ass.

Now to his credit (and yours for being honest about this), it does not seem he misrepresented himself. So what you got here is exactly what you bargained for, which was a really crappy bargain.

Because it sounds like you do everything. Except maybe plow the back forty and rub down the cows and as you can see… none of this matters. You are not only not appreciated, you are completely discardable to these people – and preferably as soon as possible.

So you see the situation here. I believe you’ve made a mistake. And I agree with the grandma, you should get out before you have a child – but not for his sake, for yours!!

Because it’s obvious you are not cut out to live in a family compound and believe me, these pricks are going to keep up the pressure until they win and they will win. Why? Because you are one. And they are many, and they are mean.

I say, run! Run for your life. This is not a family you want to be part of. As if they’d let you.

And if you leave, brace yourself. Because this family is going to blame you for everything while they coddle him. So you get the picture. Stay or go, you aren’t going to win.

I’m sorry.

Good luck.

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Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people  care to admit. The cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied but what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone.  I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40′s: Now What? Astrology-Based Advice

As the the Sun and Venus head into Virgo…this is in support and defense of underrated Virgo men and women.

“…You don’t want anyone stupid – you’re a Virgo!  But to find the right partner, you will have to let go the “little maiden” thing because you are far more complicated. Part of you is voraciously demanding for example, though this is not something you would put in your press kit, lol!

My point here is that by accessing your own intensity, you will increase your ability to attract someone who has what you need where denying same will leave you standing around looking confused…”

Continue reading Voraciously Demanding Virgos Who Play “Little Maiden”

There is no debate that Virgo is a critical sign. Whether this is a boon or a bust for people who interact with them depends on the Virgo. For example, I work with Virgos (The Mechanic and HQ). They are both critical thinkers with keen minds and I feel fortunate to have the opportunity to run my ideas through their filter.

Virgos are efficient and can save you a lot of time and pain. The have the ability to catch your errors on all levels and provided you can bear this, you’ll be helped and often tremendously. I realize there are people who want to make their own mistakes but there are circumstances where mistakes are costly. For example you don’t want to print a million copies of something that contains a typo so in a case like that, it’s foolish not to run your copy by a Virgo.

On the other hand, I have definitely met Virgos who are absolutely insufferable. They can’t go three feet without criticizing you (or themselves) and they feel all pristine about it too.

What are your experiences with Virgos and criticism?