As the collective
To a client:
“…You have this deep fear that you suck. If you invest in that, you will wind up rejecting someone, as a preemptive strike. You feel you will be rejected so you beat them to it. Obviously, if you don’t control this tendency, you’re going to reject everyone in an attempt to not be vulnerable. This will lead you to be alone…which is exacerbate your feelings of being unlovable. It’s a vicious cycle and one of the things you will really have to work on, in order to be happy in a relationship. Note this takes place entirely inside you, meaning whoever you partner with, this knee-jerk thing will surface…”
Who can relate? Where is your Venus?
To a client:
“At the base of it, is probably a fear of being rejected / fear of not being worthy. Like you, I have Venus in Leo and I would not put up with being anything less than Queen, ever. You do. You will. So if you get a good man, you think you can’t keep him. I think, he better work to keep me. If you get a lousy man, you think this might be sustainable.
Starvation diet of love is your comfort zone. To fix this, you’d have to address the core issue…”
Who can relate?
Outtakes and various other sundries…
“I think they make an ointment for that.”
Last week on the boards Elsa talked about Stephen Arroyo’s term “double whammy” and the natal chart. In short, the double whammy is when an energy signature is repeated. It also holds sway in chart comparisons, transits, really any kind of chart analysis. It’s like a neon arrow from the sky, “HEY, pay attention to this!”
Continue reading Double Whammy Transits
Recently I wrote about rejection from a personal perspective – Capricorn And Rejection. A lot of people weighed in around how they handled being rejected but with Saturn turning direct in Libra, rejection is very topical and I wanted discuss some other things.
People with Venus in Capricorn or Venus in aspect to Saturn have a tendency to reject people before they can be rejected themselves. They are so sure the sky is going to fall it’s easier to fall the sky themselves than live with the threat which is often times imagined.
Continue reading Reject Them Before They Reject You
Astrology in real life
This made me go looking at posts tagged “rejection” and I found this from 2008. I was talking to my husband about an old love of mine…
“I have been thinking about him lately and wondering what he came up with. Do you suppose he’s told himself a story about how awful I am? Or do you think he sees it in another light?”
“He’s probably told himself a story,” he replied.
“He may have a whole story constructed by now and then if becomes reality even if it’s not real. Why do people do that?”
“It’s a defense,” he said.
Ever feel like you’re failing your horoscope? I’m a Gemini who’s just downright pooped trying to salvage what I can of a relationship with a Leo man. Not to complain or anything, because I am strangely energized by all the things I’m learning about myself because of him (like how dark my dark side really is). But a lot of horoscopes seem to suggest that I should be at a romantic, lovingly committed high point right now. And I’m not. I keep trying to get him to see how beautiful life is, and how beautiful he is, and how beautiful I am! And he’s sad and frustrated and non-committal and clammed up.
How do you know it’s time to let go? Believe me, it would be easier to run…why do I feel so drawn to sticking it out? And why do I feel like I’m failing my horoscope? Thanks!
No I never feel like I am failing my chart and I don’t think you are failing yours. You have chart ruler Venus in Aries (the sign of its detriment) square Saturn, so it’s no great surprise you encounter strife and struggle in relationships. This aspect would also make you prone to feeling you are failing, so there you go – your chart is working just fine.
The Venus Saturn also explains your weary feelings along with your Moon Neptune in Scorpio which is going to see the tide go out from time to time regardless of what you do. So the real problem here is the horoscopes you are reading.
First, not everyone who says they can read a chart can… and secondly you can’t just apply these bits you read here and there and think they ought to apply, because there are just too many things to take into consideration and I can equate this to hair.
A lot of people have black hair but it is all the same? It’s not. Black hair is long, short, kinky, straight, fine, coarse, etc. Some people have a head full; others have just one hair left, others have Mohawks and so on and on. Now if you read on the web that all black haired people are going to (or should) part their hair on the left and comb it over, is this going to be accurate? It’s not. It is going to be ridiculous.
I say if you are going to use astrology, get it right and get something out of it. In this case you are using astrology to feel bad about yourself which is a lousy application. It could easily be supporting you but which tack you take is entirely up to you.
Do you ever feel you are failing yoiur chart?
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
Ah yes, the royal wedding. I’m not a fashionista nor am I terribly interested in weddings in general, still I clicked some links today to see what the women were wearing. I’m not an expert but I know my two rules: no one but the bride wears white, and don’t dress like you’re going out to work the pole afterward. But you know who looked great today? Everyone middle-aged and older. In my opinion, the older they were the better they dressed. That is so Venus Saturn.
Continue reading Venus Saturn Wedding: Appropriate Dress
My eye on the sky.
Pluto is involved which means amputation is possible. Some will be cut off but if so, it is likely to be in their own best interest. That does not mean it will not be painful. It will be painful but also productive.
To work well with this transit, accept reality when it is shown to you and be geared to move along. In other words, I don’t think there will be a lot of time provided in which to grieve or sort through it all.
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