It was my ex and mega-Scorpio, the AMF who made me aware of “happy people” in the world. He was astute and pointed out that I was a happy person as were various people we’d run across. A waitress with a wide grin for example. Just random people we’d see. He’d always notice the happy ones because he just couldn’t figure them out.

With Venus in Scorpio conjunct Saturn in the 8th, he’d wonder, “Why in the world is that guy happy? What’s he got to be happy about..?”

It was queer for us because we spent a lot of time together, one of us always grinning with the other wondering why.

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Dear Unloved,

I don’t believe anyone is destined to be unloved, but I know for sure that loves comes easier to some than others. And with Saturn ruling your 7th house and Venus in Scorpio square Saturn, you are clearly one of the others and for that I am sorry and I will try to help.

Saturn tied to Venus delays love in most cases, and if you read around you’ll be told that love comes later in life but I’d say there is no such guarantee. Love comes later in life to those willing to work for it. And I am sorry but this is just a fact and thinking otherwise is sort of like believing we all get rich in the end. Er… no we don’t!
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Thanks everyone for your good wishes.  We appreciate it!  We’re both happy as hell and I’ll tell you more as soon as we’re settled down.

I know most would be curious as to why I am writing on my blog the day after I got married and it’s simple. The soldier has to leave tomorrow (or Monday it we are extra lucky) and he has some things to do that require complete attention before he goes so he’s doing that and I am doing this and he’s done we’ll go back to hibernating until he has to leave.
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My husband and I were watching sociopaths on youtube circa 2009 when we came across this clip. Watch it and then check the comments…

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Elsa,

A Reader
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Venus and Mars are in Scorpio creating energy (an undertow) that is undeniable.

The Moon in Sagittarius (buoyant) is square Saturn (oppression) and this is also undeniable.

The energy created by Saturn (oppression) opposing Uranus (rebellion) will also show itself today and if you combine all these forces it’s pretty damned sticky out there so how about a song?

The soldier loves this song, he plays this many times a week. It has graphic sex in silhouette so if that’s going to bother you don’t click. Otherwise, it’s an amusing spoof and has all the elements of the day… Enjoy!
Continue reading Astrology Today: Christopher Walken Sings, “Why, Why, Why, Deliah?

Dear Capricorn,

Sure Venus in Scorpio is obsessive and passionate but how about self-protective, hmm? How about Scorpio’s famous will to survive? I am sorry but I don’t have much sympathy. Why would I have sympathy for someone who is doing exactly what they want to do? Do you think this is accidental? Do you think you lack purpose? I do not agree.

I think you are using this guy as an excuse not to apply yourself. He is a way and means for you to find and feel an edge. He is a way you can feel pain and manifest your fear of failing. It’s got to be you because how can any of his doing when he’s not even on the scene?

Your friends don’t understand? I bet they do understand. They understand you are frothing at the mouth for a man who has no interest. They understand you are doing lousy in school and basically wrecking your life and while you’ve certainly got the right, I would not recommend it.

I recommend you clutch it up. I recommend you throw glass of cold water in your own face. Whatever it takes to snap yourself out of this, because you are in college now and you are supposed to paying your dues – as opposed to disabling yourself and calling it “love”.

Good luck.

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Dear Sagittarian,

Yes, I agree you’re a conundrum. But first of all, you don’t “catch people”, Virgo or otherwise. If you do they won’t like it, at least not for long. How would you like it? To be caught on flypaper, in a net, or God forbid, a Roach Motel?

I see that with Venus (love) conjunct Pluto (possessive) in the 7th house, it might be tempting to catch and keep a Virgo in the dungeon on a leash – but the rest of your chart is not going to stand for this. Because if they’re captive then you’re captive, and that right there is probably your key.

Basically you have three balls you have to keep in the air. You are profoundly Sagittarius and cannot tolerate being tied down. You are profoundly Aries and very independent. And while these two balls work well together, what are you going to do with all this Scorpio?

You have a stellium in Scorpio that very much wants an exchange of energy. It very much wants to explore relationships in depth – but you can see once you head in this direction (downstairs that is), the rest of you screams “Hell NO!”

Two seconds later you’re out the door, only to constellate this whole thing a week later. So if you want a new movie you’re going to need to untangle this which means YOU are going to have to be your own science experiment, not the passing-by Virgo. But to answer your question…

Definitely contact the guy. You’re a double Aries and you need to act. And I don’t see the big problem with your Mars. It’s in Libra but so what? Go hunt a relationship (Libra) since that’s what you want. Go hunt some love! Just make sure to leave the doors open…. all of them. Otherwise, crazy you will go. (That’s Yoda talking – my Ha ha ha back atcha )

Good luck.

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Dear Venus,

Yes it is possible to for someone to enjoy feeding off their imagination. You just did it and your awareness and ability to articulate your experience at 17 years old is impressive!

As for defining what is right or wrong as far as relationship goes, this is an individual matter as you are finding out. I am sure your boy, with his Venus in Capricorn, feels it is right to define your relationship because this is his nature. He may very well feel that having it known that you are his girlfriend would increase his status and there is nothing wrong with that either. A lot of people would be proud their boyfriend is proud for example. If you wonder, just compare to a boy who tells his girlfriend to come through the back door at night so no one sees her…

Now on the flip side, you have Venus mashed up with Pluto, Neptune and Jupiter and you can go just about anywhere with this combo. Fantasy, depth and breath, you can access all of this – so at 17, I would just advise you to continue to try different things in relationship and note how they make you feel.

This is very important because although there is no normal, most of us do want to eventually be loved. And to achieve this, you have to discover who you are as an individual so you can go out in the world in an authentic way which has the consequence of attracting the right partner.

So just keeping doing what you’re doing with this minor adjustment: forget trying to judge what is right and wrong, because it’s a fruitless pursuit. Besides the fact one person cannot judge for another, people and things and attitudes are always changing. They are constantly in motion so see if you can focus less on drawing lines between right and wrong and more on just living… happily.

Good luck.

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pictured – Sleeping Venus, c. 1510, Giorgione b. 1477, Castelfranco, d. 1510, Venezia, Oil on canvas, GemÆ’