Dear Aquarius,

You can get anything or anyone you want in life? I am afraid I disagree with you. There are legions of people out there who have lost a friend or a lover, wished for and wanted them back… and failed to have this manifest. The other person has something to say about it.. The other person has free will and as an Aquarian, you should inherently understand this. That people are going to do what they want, that is.

This guy apparently wants to fantasize about butterflies. He might like to see them flying around his beloved’s head… or perhaps they are in his stomach, I don’t know. But he does not want to be in a relationship with you, at least not the one you imagine.

Now here’s a tip: you have Venus and Mars in Aries. You also have planets in Capricorn, Saturn in the first and you wish to control things, especially others. So now you want to get this guy to do something, and I would not be the least bit surprised if this were at the root of why you lost him in the first place.

People don’t like to be controlled and manipulated (Pluto in Scorpio in aspect to Venus and Mars) so when they meet someone controlling and manipulative, they tend to make like a butterfly and fly away.

Good luck.

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Dear Gemini,

No I never feel like I am failing my chart and I don’t think you are failing yours. You have chart ruler Venus in Aries (the sign of its detriment) square Saturn, so it’s no great surprise you encounter strife and struggle in relationships. This aspect would also make you prone to feeling you are failing, so there you go – your chart is working just fine.

The Venus Saturn also explains your weary feelings along with your Moon Neptune in Scorpio which is going to see the tide go out from time to time regardless of what you do. So the real problem here is the horoscopes you are reading.

First, not everyone who says they can read a chart can… and secondly you can’t just apply these bits you read here and there and think they ought to apply, because there are just too many things to take into consideration and I can equate this to hair.

A lot of people have black hair but it is all the same? It’s not. Black hair is long, short, kinky, straight, fine, coarse, etc. Some people have a head full; others have just one hair left, others have Mohawks and so on and on. Now if you read on the web that all black haired people are going to (or should) part their hair on the left and comb it over, is this going to be accurate? It’s not. It is going to be ridiculous.

I say if you are going to use astrology, get it right and get something out of it. In this case you are using astrology to feel bad about yourself which is a lousy application. It could easily be supporting you but which tack you take is entirely up to you.

Good luck.

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I’ve already written about Venus opposing Saturn on March 9, 2010 which will have people taking a cold, hard look at love and relationship.  I wanted to isolate that aspect because there are a lot of Venus-Saturn or Venus in Capricorn (tag) people around her but actually that opposition is tied up with Pluto and this is BIG deal.

It’s a big nasty deal you might say because Venus is the sign of it’s detriment (Aries) opposing Saturn in Libra which are the signs that make up the me/we aspect. Pluto squaring both makes the whole thing drastic and what is occurring to me is just how plain and simple and ugly this is.
Continue reading Transit Watch: Venus In Train Wreck, March 8-13, 2010: What If You Just Don’t Like A Person?

I am working with a gal with Venus in Aries, with Mars in Libra, I know all about it – fighting in love.

This song came to mind when writing for her but when (if) you listen to it consider a circumstance where the woman shoots the man for little or even NO reason because this happens and Saturn in Libra begs types like this (types like me) to consider the consequences.

Taj Mahal with masterpiece, “Frankie And Albert” – Enjoy!

Could you be Frankie? Where is your Venus and Mars?

The current thread reminded me of this from last February…

I was talking to a pal last night, she’s dating an Aries. You have to challenge Aries or else. This blog is full of women (and men) writing about how their Aries lover has lost interest after they have offered their total devotion. Aries hates that!

Aries is the God of War, not love. Put Venus in one of the Mars-ruled signs and it starts to cook. It gets hot. Mars likes to fight. Venus in Aries makes war of love and love of war and this is the story I told this gal last night…
Continue reading Astrology And Love: Dating Aries…. Venus in Aries

Mars in Libra loves aggressive fiery love. There is affinity the current sky – Venus in Aries so I’m milkin’ it and this is Patty Smyth…

“Yeah, begged for that job,” the soldier said. “For one thing I liked her and I knew I would like guarding her but besides that we were patrolling at the (omitted) border and it was just cold as hell. I mean, it was freezing and I had been out there awhile and I really wanted to get inside and get out of the cold for awhile so I begged for the assignment and I got it.”

“Yeah?”

“Yeah and it was great.”

Continue reading More Fiery Love! Meet Patty Smyth

Here’s another for the current and jarring Venus (Women) in Aries (detriment) in aspect to debilitated Mars (Men) in Cancer. It continues this conversation re: the girl trucker… Venus Tempts Mars

(graphic language below the break – Appropriate for today’s sky as far as I am concerned)

Continue reading Astrology, Men And Women: Does The Chase Thrill You? How About Competing?