Dear Forty,

There is nothing wrong with losing weight, getting a nice haircut and dressing well! What society calls a mid-life crisis, astrologers call the Uranus opposition… and I think you should embrace the change.

And society says these forty-year olds are trying to be twenty, but that’s not it. At the time of the Uranus opposition, you realize your time on this planet is limited and there is an urge to break out of a rut – which is exactly what you are doing. And since your transit is applying, you can expect more of the same, so I would expect to continue to progress in this direction… thank goodness!

It’s sort of like re-booting your computer. You’ve got all this gunk and baggage and you want to dump it and live free. And why shouldn’t you? You’ve raised your kids! You’ve shown up for 20 years!

Now specific to your wandering eye, so what? You are noticing others and they are noticing you. This does not mean you are going to act on anything. Maybe it just means you’re becoming more vitally alive.

So I say, just keep doing what you’re doing and allow things to unfold. Go to the movies. If you tire of going alone… if there a void, eventually the universe will fill it. And when you’re talking about Uranus, it will always be in the most unexpected way. So please. Try to relax and enjoy this transition. You are going to be fine. In fact, you are going to be better than ever. It is okay to be free.

Good luck.

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Dear Baffled,

This is very simple, which a Taurus like you can appreciate. I think you need some new friends. Uranus (change, revolution) is transiting your 11th house (friends), and consequently you can see everything is tossed into the air.

And check this: You say, “They expect things to be the same,” about one situation, but you are refusing to accept change in the other situation – although it’s obviously occurred. Er… your friend has taken a path with that boy and that’s it. She is going to the future not the past, and this is what you must do as well.

I am not saying you will not hook up with her further down the road. You may. But this type of fast change and to and fro in the realm of friendships is a given during this transit… which is going to last six years!

So what you can so is align yourself. And I understand this is a challenge for Taurus, a very FIXED sign who loathes change. But regardless of how much you dislike it, what will help is to accept and embrace the conditions. And in this case, that means developing a more detached attitude when it comes to friends, i.e. they come and they go and sometimes they come back. The idea is to offer your friends the freedom to experiment while enjoying the same freedom yourself.

Good luck.

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Dear Sad,

Yeah! You’re a danger, all right. Let me fill you in on the astrology.

As you know, people are walking around with their various complexes. And in your business, you’re aware that some events can occur which trigger the complex and all hell breaks loose. Same thing in my business – except timing is foreseeable because it correlates with transits to the birth chart.

Now in your chart, there is a big fat honkin’ complex. It’s composed of Mars (anger), your Moon (emotion), Uranus (unpredictable) and Pluto (explosive). And further… all those planets are conjunct your ascendant, which means we can all see the veins pop out on your forehead.

This whole mess is in Virgo, Mercury’s sign (communication) which is why you yell like a motherfucking drill sergeant, I bet. So there it sits and then along comes a transit, in this case from Uranus. The effect is like putting a cattle prod to this thing, and the result is your email!

So here’s what I can offer. First the timing. Forget about quick resolution. You will be dealing with this in your face into early 2008. It’s not going away, so you need to align. And you can do that if you understand the underlying purpose, which is your liberation.

Now Uranus wants to experiment. Out with the old, in with the new – and then out with the new, and in with the newer new. And you see what you’ve done? You’ve moved home on impulse. And now you have another impulse. And as disruptive as this may be, it has a purpose.

Because think about it. Do people necessarily know what they want? They don’t. Sometimes they have to experiment. They have to try different hats different ways and this is where you’re at now, due to arrive circa 2008. But with all this Virgo, you want to be perfect! You want order! But you’re not going to get it. You’re going to get the cattle prod. And as soon as you try to settle, here comes another impulse.

The fact is, you don’t want anyone telling you what to do! You don’t want restriction of any kind! You want to figure it out yourself and if you will be able to reduce your suffering dramatically if you get complexly conscious of this and embrace… even celebrate this process.

Because this transit is releasing all this energy – but over these next months you will learn via experimentation, all about this weapon you have. You will learn about the knife that you are. And with a little bit of luck, you will become a brilliant (Uranus) psychotherapist (Pluto) who helps (Virgo) heal (Pluto) the emotionally (Moon) injured (Mars). And it will all be worth it.

But you asked about keeping your friends and your lover, and I think you’re already doing quite a bit. You’re aware you’re packing an enormous punch and looking for appropriate ways to discharge. You can also communicate; this is Virgo’s forte. Explain that you need a lot space right now. You need a lot of freedom, but this does not mean you don’t love them.

Outside of that, I would look for some bulletproof friends. People who can take your heat, because your heat is fuckin’ hot. And you are very Virgo, so you don’t want to hurt people. You want to help them. And this is why you feel sad. Because you know people are blown off the planet by you. So it would be nice to have some thick-skinned friends. Some people “hard to kill”.

Indiana Jones comes to mind. You come at him with your rage, he’ll just shoot you and go on with his day! In fact, that wouldn’t be a bad idea. Arm your friends with (squirt) guns and tell them to shoot you if you’re too far over the line.

Good luck.

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Dear Scorpio Moon,

I am going to be candid and say that I feel you need to resolve this before you marry. Because when a person wants kids… they pretty much want kids. And if the two of you can’t come together on this, well it’s a hell of a compromise to ask in either direction.

Outside of that, in a generic way, please read this old blog “Scorpio Mom” that I wrote for a gal with a new baby who was afraid she would mess up her kid. Because you seem to have some similar feelings. But your case is very different.

Where she has the baby, you are deeply ambivalent about ever winding up in her shoes. And your chart reflects this in many ways, but I want to just hit up the main thing here because it seems possible this could release you.

You mention your Scorpio Moon, but you fail to mention that your Moon (Mommy) is conjunct Uranus (freedom) which dramatically alters the situation. Uranus always wants a lot of space. It cannot suffer restriction, so maybe you can see how this is reflected in your post. If you have kids you’re going to be screwed, blued, tattooed. And to an extent, this is true. But this is the point I want to make:

If you decide to have children, you do not have to be a traditional “Mommy”, however you might define that. And this might be one of the things that has you stuck. Thinking erroneously there is a way “mommies” need to behave.

What I think mommies need to do is be authentic. And if you had children, you would need some time away from them… period. And I don’t think this is a negative thing at all.

I know I need time away from my kids and they know it too. Because I tell them! I communicate this. And I think they benefit. My daughter sees she can have children and still have a life and some independence. My son learns that just because a woman has children, this does not mean she is dead! How can that be bad?

Well it would be bad if I neglected my kids, but I don’t. I just make it plainly clear to them that I am an individual, same as them. And we all have personalities that need to be appreciated and accommodated.

So I just wanted to put this in your hopper. The idea that if you decide to be a mother (Moon), you can make your own rules (Uranus). You can innovate! And I don’t believe your children will suffer. They may say, “My mother was a freak”; but if you love them while you’re doing your own thing, when they say it they’ll be smiling.

Good luck.

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