I’ve peripherally involved in a really ugly and fairly large situation. You know I can’t be involved, involved because I work all the time, however I carry the shadow for this entire group which must number over 500 people by now.

On top that, the situation has cost millions of dollars and I am the person who is seen to be at fault…and I mean, me, solely. I am the one who is to blame.

Now I can never be charged with anything because I’ve not done anything wrong. I could easily provide stacks of evidence that would show that I am not culpable but this is not what is needed from me. What is needed is someone to stand as demon for the collective and I serve beautifully well in this role.

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This is from 2007. I was reminded of it because of this thread on the boards – What is a dark Pisces?

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Shaina writes on the Scorpio Strikes, Itty Bitty blog:

“Oh, do I know someone like this? OUI. My boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend is president of the fencing club. It is unbelievable how she can be cutting, rude, spiteful, and not understand how her actions affect the people around her. She is a Cancer sun with a Pisces moon, a Venus in Gemini and a Merc in Leo, a combination of energies which I have noticed can lead to bullying…”

Shaina, I get it. There are people who are supposed to be compassionate but are anything but and this reminds me of a story. I once knew this gal, she was a triple Pisces and she was a friend of mine. She worked in the healing arts and she was enormously kind and helpful to me. She was kind and helpful to all kinds of people, however she treated her boyfriend terribly.

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Speaking of families where one or more members are invisible, projected upon, or forced to carry the shadow for the group, I am trying to improve my level of understanding and acceptance of this. Because as common as this is, to me it’s a foreign culture.

My family is very overt. Everyone knows who everyone is because every single one of us has a strong Moon Jupiter signature and we will tell you who we are.

Now if you misunderstand us, we will tell you again with our voice raised. We’ll be loud at first and then louder.  If continue to misunderstand, we will probably pick up a brick and hit you with it. Continue reading The Psychology And The Shadow Side Of Families

“I love all my kids the same.” Most mothers say that perhaps it’s true though from a certain angle. But from other angles it hard to substantiate and in some cases it’s flat out obvious a mother prefers one child over the other.

As for the way I titled this post, I think it is possible for a mother to love a child but just not like them all that much and reasons are endless.

There may be a personality conflict. The kid just may rub the mother the wrong way. The mother may need a scapegoat or someone to carry her shadow. The kid may look (or act) like the father who the mother has come to loathe, etc.

Continue reading Pluto In Capricorn: Shadow Side Of Parenting – Just Because She’s Your Mother, It Doesn’t Mean She Likes You

This is from 2009. It is relevant with Pluto (shadow) squaring Aquarius co-rulers, Saturn and Uranus

Heather writes on Astrology Today:

“I’d like to hear more about the shadow side of Aquarius–particularly if other astrologers don’t talk about it. I am a Aquarius, and I know a good handful more (in whom I can see the shadow–but thanks to a 7th house sun, I can only see myself via another…or so I’ve found. Show me my shadow?”

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‘Someone said this to me yesterday,” I told, Annalisa. “It’s brilliant.  She said, all these women are single parents so they want the government to be the daddy.” I explained what I read on the the teaching kids sex in schools thread.  ‘See, they send their kid to school and daddy, the government, talks to the kid and then they come home and Mommy fills in. Get it?  The government is the new daddy for these kids.”

“That’s exactly right.”

“I think so too.  And they think they can control this thing, the government, that has no heart, no mind and no soul. They think they have control and I told them, right now the government is teaching something they may agree with. It is gay-friendly and people like that. They don’t seem to realize if they give over their rights to parent to the government, the government can start teaching something they don’t like.”

Continue reading Pluto In Capricorn: Psychology & Shadow Side Of Parenting – Single Mothers: The Government As Co-Parent Of Your Child

When I asked for people to weigh in on the path of least resistance, it was because I was thinking about children of divorced parents or perhaps parents who were never married. I think it’s a majority of children who grow up with their parents divided at this point the results or effects of this are  pervasive and beginning to show themselves.

I’ve been dancing around this topic for a year now – the shadow side of parenting – making the claim that parenting is “broken”.  I have feel this is the case and have strong opinions about it but it’s difficult to write about because it’s so easy to trigger someone(s) defenses as people are so heavily invested in this one way or the other.

Continue reading Pluto In Capricorn: Shadow Side Of Parenting Redux

satori and I, still talkin”, circa 2007…

“I’ve taken out more than my share of perps,” I said. “But in a lot of the scenarios I can think of, I’m pretty sure I’d be struck, frozen in fear with the rest of the masses. I don’t have any judgment about that, it just is. Some people are cut out for acting in ways that are valiant, I guess you could say. And others not. I’m not.”

“I am,” she said.

“Yeah. I admire people like you who take action. And I pay a lot of attention to this and I think people like you pay a high price for their prowess.”

“What do you mean?”

Continue reading Violently Attacked? Defend Yourself Effectively At Your Own Risk: Scorpio, the 8th House and the Shadow Side of the Collective