Dear Scorpio,

I am not sure you’re broken so I would take care in trying to fix anything. No you are not “blocked”. It is exactly opposite that. You are an exceedingly ethereal and float-y person and it may be that physical sex is somewhat gross to someone so transcendent.

Basically here’s your deal: You have a packed 12th house, and Neptune (dissipate) conjunct your Mars (sex drive). Your whole chart is beautifully strung and this is reflected in the fact you are so comfortable with what you are. It’s very, Alfred E. Newman, famous for his line, “What? Me Worry?”

And if you re-read your post you will see it is almost as if you are trying to “get it up” and concern yourself with what others think you should be concerned with and you can do this if you want. Part of you likes to experiment so go right ahead. I would only warn you not to take on someone else’s idea there is something wrong with you because this is not the case.

There are men and women out there who eschew sex and feel perfectly fine. A Catholic nun would be a good example of this… she simply has other (larger) things on her mind.

And just remember this: Scorpio wields power. But sexuality is just one expression of that.

Good luck.

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Regarding this soul merge thing (Merging Souls? Who Would Want To Do This?) I think the concept is ethereal but the mechanics behind it are not and I thought I would record some of this stuff. For you, because I think it’s interesting and for me so I can have more clarity.

Now the soldier read my book which is about my life or at least part of it and the book ends at a Fleetwood Mac concert. I didn’t intend it to end there… it was HQ’s genius that ended the book there but in whatever case, I would describe this day as significant in my life. And I wrote the truth of that day as I understood it but then the soldier read it.

And some months later he was doing his psychic thing… he had his antenna and he (for the time ever) tuned into me on this specific day in my life and he could feel my feelings.

So he told me about this. He told me what I felt… what was going on inside me that day and the fact he was right was undeniable. I do think people know the truth when they hear it but beyond that, once reminded the feelings came back in a rush. And this was hard for us.

It was hard for him… very hard for a plethora of reasons and it was hard for me because here is someone poking around gaining access to information you didn’t know was there. And we related this to sex at the time.

If you’re our type you can and do stumble across things about the partner during sex. In fact when I was young and more cowboy I used to say it just like this:

“You don’t know anything about a person until and unless you sleep with them, yep! If you want to know someone, get in the bed otherwise you have no idea what you’re dealing with.”

I will come back with this story, but do you agree with this?

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Don’t miss koheli’s comment on Hiro’s sex quiz.

I had to take a cold shower after I read that thing!

Thanks koheli. Nice to meet you and thanks for sharing your expertise!

This question was addressed to the group by a 28 year old woman:

I am having a Pluto moon transit this year and I have started suffering from sexomnia. I literally fall asleep only to wake up at some point during the night and initiate sex with my partner. The thing is I don’t recall most of the encounters. I love sex but this is really creeping me out. Has anyone else experienced something like this during a pluto transit?

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The soldier and I:

“Yeah, well I didn’t know anything about sex when I met you,” he said. “Or I knew very little. You on the other hand knew everything and then some.”

I laughed.

“Yeah, so you had to teach me and you did teach me. I was always the learner in the situation but I did learn. In fact, I went the rest of my life on what I learned from you in regards to sex.”

I didn’t answer because I was a little embarrassed. Continue reading Talk About Expansive: Mars Mercury in the 9th House And The Sex Travels Around The World

Dear Pisces.

It sounds to me as if you are serious and it also sounds as if you have a chance to win your wife back – but you are going to have to revolutionize your way of being. And if you are not willing to do this, I am sure a separation is in both your best interests. But so long as you’re willing to really change, here is a map. These are the steps you can take and and with a Capricorn Moon and rising I am sure you know how to follow a plan.

First withdraw the petition for divorce if you can. If she wants a divorce, let her file it. You don’t want a divorce, so what are you doing getting one?

Next, whatever the issues of abuse are, solve them. Don’t care what she did to you. That’s her problem to solve. But you’ve got to stop hitting her, yelling at her, or whatever else you are doing – and you have got to stop it completely. If you find this a challenge, get a therapist and figure out why but you must do this 100%. This is non-negotiable.

You must also use your dick! For Godsakes you cannot let your wife languish and go without sex for 4 years! Are you crazy? Are you drunk? Whatever you are, fix it! Women need sex from men to thrive! PERIOD. You are in your early forties for Chrissakes. There is no excuse!

So there you go. If you hit your wife and deprive her of sex, as far as I am concerned she ought to go find another man! And so she did. But in this case, even though she may love him, she apparently doesn’t want him or she would be gone! So it does seem she may be trying to make a point and you may have a chance… and if so I hope you use it.

But from one Capricorn to another, I can tell you right now: if you keep doing “the wrong thing”, you’re going to do nothing but continue to roll down the hill.

Good luck.
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More chat re: the way up there, elevated gal who hit on the soldier…

“So why do you think she did that, P? Do you understand? I mean I guess she’s horny and I don’t blame her for that but why me? We’re friends. We have been very good friends and why would she mess it up like this?”

“Oh, I am sure she’s got a whole fantasy,” I said.

“Fantasy?”

“Yeah. You know how men are visual?”

“Yeah.”

“Well women, we like to dream things up. We like to imagine how things would be, or could be and you are perfect for this.”

“Why? Why am I perfect? What did I do?” Continue reading The Soldier and the Gal Who Hit On Him: The 8th House, Scorpio and Attraction to Taboo

Today I saw a man in the gym so obviously horny to the point of abstraction I thought someone ought to volunteer to take care of him. Not me, but someone.

And now, twelve hours later it dawns on me I bet I look just like him at least from time to time if not frequently or even daily! Yipes!

Where is your Mars?

Dear Betrayed,

I am inordinately sensitive to pregnant women. I think that making a baby is one of the most demanding things a woman can do, so I take great care when I get a question from a gal carrying a child. And when I read yours I was hoping there would be some way to softpedal or ease an answer in your direction; but as it turns out, your chart is so extreme I am just going to have to come from an odd angle and hope I do a good enough job of making sense (without causing any harm).

Now it seems clear to me that although the porn is very hurtful, you do love your husband and would prefer to keep family together. And I agree with you. Your husband is honest, he is there and he has been there for eight years. So is there a way you can react differently to this situation? I say there is.

Now you are 26. And while that’s no baby, I am a lot older than you and can tell you that you are going to find out all kinds of things about sex… if you’re lucky! For example, while I do think men are more visual than women, when it comes to an ability to fantasize they’ve got nothing on us. And with as chart like yours, this is particularly true. You would be hard pressed to find someone who would be able to out-fantasize you so I have to think this whole situation is leading you to discover your own sexuality.

See, we start out with all these rigid rules. Won’t do that. Can’t do that. But the best lovemaking occurs when these walls come down. You can’t keep them up, anyway. You’ll kill yourself trying. You cannot expect a man to lie on top you and focus his mind on you, you, you, you to the exclusion of anything else. It is not realistic but it is also not desirable.

Because if turnaround is fair play, then you’re going to have lie beneath him and think if him, him, him, him and I am sorry… but that is freakishly limited, don’t you think?

This is not a male/female issue. I am a woman and I think about all kinds of things during sex. This does not mean I don’t know who I am in bed with. I am so grateful for a partner that gives me freedom. Because we are all interested in taboo, consciously or otherwise. I want to explore my sexuality utterly and completely, don’t you?

Think about it. Do you want to color between the lines this time, next time and the time after… until the end of time? I don’t think you do. Your chart says otherwise. Your chart says, this girl is boundless. This girl can travel. She has an imagination that can take her anywhere. So let me give you a “for instance”.

What if the next time you have sex with your husband, you imagine that teacher you had a crush on when you were thirteen years old? Think that might raise your temperature? Try it. And with that in your mind, let it go if it wants… your husband’s face is transposed with this other face… and then another and another.

If you did that, would it mean you do not love your husband? No. It would mean you are a vitally alive sexual being – and if he is same, then you can be set for life. Nobody likes a rut. And here is the newsflash: especially you!

I’m going to say it again. You have a Sagittarius Moon conjunct Neptune. You have an exact Sun, Pluto, Black Moon conjunction in the 12th house… in Scorpio no less. You have a Mercury Uranus conjunction in the 1st, also in Scorpio and puleeease… let your dogs out to play, I think you’ll be very happy if you do.

The baby growing inside you? He or she is a product of your powerful sexuality. Feel it and rejoice.

Much love and good luck to you and your family.
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Just back from a workshop with Glenn Perry PhD… sort of a spur of the moment thing. Since having children, I don’t attend local astrology meetings so I am out of the loop as far as what is going on locally but I happened to hear of this workshop and couple days ago and immediately decided to attend.

I wanted to go very specifically to see Perry and I could have cared less what the workshop was about. Reason being, the chapter he wrote in, "Sexuality In The Horoscope".

I read that book when it first came out. I went clambering for it actually, considering I am me and I was treated to his bold treatment of Venus and Pluto in aspect. Continue reading Glenn Perry PhD – Sexuality In The Horoscope and His Workshop On Psychodynamics of Aspects in Astrology