Speaking of deal breakers in relationship, my husband always says that you can’t turn blood on blood. To me, old friends are like blood.

I think it is always a mistake to bad mouth a person’s family, even if the person speaks poorly about their family themselves as these roots are very deep.

When you attack a person’s family, you attack them.  When you attack and criticize their friends, you attack them as well. Same when you attack a person’s spouse.

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With Saturn in Libra, many have come up with a carefully constructed (Saturn) veneer (Libra).

Saturn’s transit through Scorpio will reveal the shadow side of these appearances, to both the self and others.

Is your life less than it’s cracked up to be?

I feel sorry for some of these men, left high and dry by their wives. I feel sorry for women who are left as well, but some of these men have wives who are going to leave them and they just don’t realize, they’re about to be hit by a truck.

I also think a good number of people who divorce would have better off to ride out the storm in their marriage. I can’t tell you how many people I work with, who left their spouse and would put it back the way it was, if they could. There’s a song about this:
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This is for a client who has identified patterns in how she relates men, that doom her relationships. She can break her bad patterns in relationship and so can you. Here’s how!

Many couples are separating as Saturn wraps up in Libra.  As painful as this may be, in most cases it is happening because the people have discovered that they are just not suited to each other, or that they able to make the deeper commitment that Saturn’s transit through Scorpio will demand.
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In regards to my remark, “ “To avoid pain, do the right thing. Act maturely” on Dealing With Pain And Avoiding Regret Around Relationships That Are Ending As Saturn Leaves Libra  Candela writes:

“What if it’s someone else ending “the relationship” with me? Not my choice, really, because I would very much like to remain friends. But I do understand that we can’t, right now at least.”

Most likely the person has weighed the situation and determined it is not in someone’s best interest to continue to interact. I don’t know your personal situation but as an example, a married person might have become friendly with someone outside their marriage. It might have seemed a good idea at the time, but now they see that person is falling in love with them. It might be that their spouse may feel jealous, or they may be pressed for time and need to prioritize, or whatever.
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In regards to my remark, “ “To avoid pain, do the right thing. Act maturely” on Dealing With Pain And Avoiding Regret Around Relationships That Are Ending As Saturn Leaves Libra  abella writes:

“I’ve found some people saying they’ve ‘done’ the ‘right thing’ but they haven’t from my perspective. I don’t think they know ‘what’ the right thing is.

Can you lend some thoughts Elsa on how they can figure out right from wrong? And as you suggest, those people haven’t been ‘mature’ and have been more ‘me oriented’. But what I have witnessed is down the road, they end up paying for not doing what was right at the time (right, in Saturn’s mind).”

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This is an offshoot of this thread – new version of sticking it out for the kids.

I think a lot of people leave their marriage because they’re unhappy with themselves and they project the cause of their unhappiness onto their partner.  They don’t realize that you can run but you can’t hide and their dissatisfaction will follow them.
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