In regards to my remark, “ “To avoid pain, do the right thing. Act maturely” on Dealing With Pain And Avoiding Regret Around Relationships That Are Ending As Saturn Leaves Libra  Candela writes:

“What if it’s someone else ending “the relationship” with me? Not my choice, really, because I would very much like to remain friends. But I do understand that we can’t, right now at least.”

Most likely the person has weighed the situation and determined it is not in someone’s best interest to continue to interact. I don’t know your personal situation but as an example, a married person might have become friendly with someone outside their marriage. It might have seemed a good idea at the time, but now they see that person is falling in love with them. It might be that their spouse may feel jealous, or they may be pressed for time and need to prioritize, or whatever.
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In regards to my remark, “ “To avoid pain, do the right thing. Act maturely” on Dealing With Pain And Avoiding Regret Around Relationships That Are Ending As Saturn Leaves Libra  abella writes:

“I’ve found some people saying they’ve ‘done’ the ‘right thing’ but they haven’t from my perspective. I don’t think they know ‘what’ the right thing is.

Can you lend some thoughts Elsa on how they can figure out right from wrong? And as you suggest, those people haven’t been ‘mature’ and have been more ‘me oriented’. But what I have witnessed is down the road, they end up paying for not doing what was right at the time (right, in Saturn’s mind).”

Continue reading Pain And Avoiding Regret Around Relationships Ending At This Time, Con’t.

This is an offshoot of this thread – new version of sticking it out for the kids.

I think a lot of people leave their marriage because they’re unhappy with themselves and they project the cause of their unhappiness onto their partner.  They don’t realize that you can run but you can’t hide and their dissatisfaction will follow them.
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This is a companion to this piece, Inequality In The Real World. People think it should right and just and fair but in reality, you have to weigh things you are pursuing and perhaps accept less than what is fair (or nothing at all) to get a longer term gain.  You may hate this but it’s real, as will be proven over and over with Saturn in Libra.  Social rules.  Seniority in relationship. Grace at work. COMPROMISE.

Saturn will leave Libra at the end of the year. Many are trying to decide whether or not they should continue in a certain relationship or not. Here’s a simple no-fail criteria for ya.

Are you trying to decide whether or not to stay in a partnership? Tell us!

This question has come up several times in the last week or so.  A man or a woman has made this statement and I have been asked (and asked others) what it means.  The responses have been varied.

Some think that when someone says this to you, they will never marry you.

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With Venus conjunct Pluto in Capricorn, this is newly relevant. You can break your bad patterns in relationship. Here’s how!

When Saturn first entered Libra,  I wrote about high maintenance types going out of vogue.  You may notice that we don’t even hear that phrase anymore (in regular circles). People used to boast about their over-the-top demanding personalities and it just doesn’t fly at this point.

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If you talk to a lot of people you see themes emerge and one of the things people are finding out with Saturn in Libra is that in reality, things are not fair. I learned this the last time Saturn was in Libra and I remember being stunned.

For example, I was sued (unfairly) when I was 19 years old. I couldn’t afford an attorney and I had no knowledge of anything “court” or “legal”. I had to do something though. The amount of money I was being sued for was about 25 times more than I had to my name.

Continue reading Inequality In The Real World: “Sometimes They Say That You Eat The Bear, But Sometimes The Bear Eats You!”