Dear Curious,

I don’t think you are incapable of a serious relationship. You’re challenged maybe, along with the rest of us. The problem with you and this is guy is this simple: you didn’t fit!!

Square peg, Round hole. Square peg. Round hole. Square peg. Round hole.

No matter how hard you try, this is never going to work but it does not follow that either of you are misshapen. I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s hard enough to keep something together when there is compatibility.

With your Saturn (a teacher) in the 7th house (partners), there are lessons to be learned from your relationships.

In this case the lesson in this: when you try to put a shoe on and your foot won’t go in, you need another shoe!

Good luck.

“Hey Elsa, All else being equal, how would you feel about marrying someone with Saturn in the Seventh?”

Boy, that’s a good question. For people new to astrology, traditional interpretation of Saturn in the 7th house (or any other Venus Saturn exchange) is burden in relationship. There are other manifestations of course. People marry older partners, controlling partners, the marriage is a business deal and I could go on and on. Fact is whatever the case, some restriction is given.

Now before you go swearing off anyone with a Venus Saturn exchange in their chart (or stabbing yourself if it’s you with Saturn in the 7th) just consider the alternative. How would you like a partner with no restrictions, hmm? How about he or she runs amok all over the land? Sound any better? I didn’t think so.
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Dear Unloved,

I don’t believe anyone is destined to be unloved, but I know for sure that loves comes easier to some than others. And with Saturn ruling your 7th house and Venus in Scorpio square Saturn, you are clearly one of the others and for that I am sorry and I will try to help.

Saturn tied to Venus delays love in most cases, and if you read around you’ll be told that love comes later in life but I’d say there is no such guarantee. Love comes later in life to those willing to work for it. And I am sorry but this is just a fact and thinking otherwise is sort of like believing we all get rich in the end. Er… no we don’t!
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Rebecca asks on Saturn In The 7th House – Would You Marry Them?

“What if you BOTH have Saturn in the 7th house?”

Rebecca, while you’d have to consider both charts as a whole, in general I would see this as a positive because both people would have a similar bead on relationship. Both people would see relationship as serious and this goes a long way. It would be like finding “tribe”. Someone who sees eye to eye with you regarding love.
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Dear Motivated,

Yes I have advice. Slow down. Slow way, way, down and I don’t mean this in a way that is condescending. And I don’t mean it as if “she’s going to grow up or out of this… or the relationship is going end sort of way.” I mean it as an astrologer looking at your chart. Slow down in love because this is the speed that is organic to you.

Now I don’t care if you are 25 years old. You have Venus in Capricorn and Saturn tied with Mars and your 7th house and this love thing is serious business to you. Your email reflects this and I think that’s a wholly positive sign – so what I would encourage you to do is get even more on your game via self awareness.

Aquarius Sun aside, be aware that when it comes to love, you are a like a wobbly kneed mountain goat trying to reach the heights. And for a skinny-legged goat to manage this, there is no choice but to move slowly and carefully up the side of the mountain. And when you get to certain points… well you might want to take a rest, plot your moves before taking the next step so you can have a sure foot. This is your game and there is nothing wrong with it.

So that’s my advice. Go forward, absolutely. Don’t dare give into the fear but make your moves only when you real reasonably sure it is safe, understanding that for you what is ‘reasonably safe” is probably ultra-safe and bullet proof for most.

Good luck.

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