You’re going to be a decent person, when? I recorded this in 2008. It continues to be relevant with Saturn in Libra. Does the manner in which you leave one relationship impact the next? Does the trail of bodies you leave behind mean anything?

 

Dear Unsure,

In my experience, liars lie. Since your man is a known liar, there is no telling what he is up to even if he expressly tells you.

With Venus part of a stellium in Capricorn, your chart suggests the capacity for love relationship that is stable, supportive and real. That’s the potential but the way you’re playing it is just about as opposite that as you can get.  Rather than working to ground a relationship in real life and deriving a sense of self esteem through being a stellar partner, you’re expressing this energy in a wholly negative way, settling for the tiniest of crumbs as if this is all you deserve.

Continue reading Astrology-Based Advice: Long Distance Love With A Married Man – Venus in Capricorn

“I don’t know what closure is,” my husband said. “Who gets closure? You almost never get closure. If you do get closure then fine but I’d not looking for it. I’m going to try to get some closure. The concept makes no sense. I don’t know who comes up with this stuff…”.

As a Venus Neptune type, I know exactly what he means. Nothing ever ends. There is no way to close anything because you never know when a person is going to pop up in real life, your thoughts, your dreams, in conversation, in a poem, in a song…

I’d never heard this stated so plainly and thought it was a boon so I’m sharing the bounty. It seems that looking for “closure” is aka wasting your time so I am done with that as of today.

On being game-y, my friend said she got a lot of power from doing this. She had control. Judging by the comments it seems we may not all be talking about the same thing so let me clarify.

My friend would engage a man. She would be very attentive to him, leading him to believe she was really interested in knowing him and as soon as she had him hooked she would detach.

Continue reading Astrology and Manipulation in Relationships Redux – Gaslighting: Who Is Most Susceptible?

So when I met HQ, I was incredibly miserable although no one had any idea of this. It’s a quality about me. It’s called Jupiter… I mean, “Dimples rising”. When you grin all the time and have dimples no one imagines there is a problem, never mind a serious one but HQ eventually learned that this was the case.
Continue reading The Power Of Love and Friendship – Part 3: Cards, Cars and Fast Women