“Just what do you mean when you say, project their shadow?” my husband asked. “Exactly what do you mean by that?”

“Well take these women, they have a falling out with their man. And they say blah, blah, blah he did all this crap to me. He’s this rotten guy.”

“Yeah, they do that.”
Continue reading His Scorpio Moon And My 8th House: Placing Blame And Projecting Your Shadow In Relationships

A reader asks:

“In your style, do you feel composite charts are more, less or just as significant as synastry? I know that every astrologer has a different style & preference. Just wondering what your take on it is. Are they both different but hold just the same weight of importance?”

I think they are both significant but for different things. Synastry shows how two people interact. She feels thwarted by him. He feels supported by her. They butt heads all the time, or whatever.

Continue reading Synastry vs Composite Charts

Tomorrow, Mars in Gemini will square Neptune. This spells “gaslighting” on one level which is a subject I like. Here is an old post on the topic, and you can click the tag for more.

I almost never come across a book this good. Though it is rated 5 stars in 4 reviews on Amazon, I think it’s pretty scarce. They did not have a copy in the Denver Public Library system but I was able to borrow if from Denver University Library and I was surprised when I got the copy because it was written in 1996 and appears to have never been read.

Just the title should have sold this thing, you’d think. Gaslighting, the Double Whammy, Interrogation and Other Methods of Covert Control in Psychotherapy and Analysis by Theo. L. Dorpat so I will leave others to explain that and just tell you this is an extraordinary book.
Continue reading Gaslighting, Analyzing The Analysts and “On Normopaths and Functioning as a Mirror for Others”

Say you’ve got a problem and let’s say you’ve got the hang of astrology or perhaps you consult an astrologer and they isolate some problem or pathology to a specific aspect in your chart. Now what?

If the astrologer is me, they will tell you the energy is yours and that energy is neutral until directed, meaning you can find a positive way to channel it. I haven’t written specifically on this topic so I thought I’d start.

Continue reading Getting Good Results Via The Hard Aspects In Your Chart

With Saturn in Libra people are being rejected right and left. In some cases this is new experience for them and whether the rejection is warranted or not, it’s painful.

This made me go looking at posts tagged “rejection” and I found this from 2008. I was talking to my husband about an old love of mine…

“I have been thinking about him lately and wondering what he came up with. Do you suppose he’s told himself a story about how awful I am? Or do you think he sees it in another light?”

“He’s probably told himself a story,” he replied.

“He may have a whole story constructed by now and then if becomes reality even if it’s not real. Why do people do that?”

“It’s a defense,” he said.

“Against what?”
Continue reading Rejection – The Relationship Fails, Now Whose Fault Is It?

From 2007 -

What if you’re single and you’ve had a string of lousy and/or very short-lived relationships over the course of several years.  You’ve had some involvements or even a lot of involvements but none of the people you’ve mixed it up with was very good for you so you’re getting nowhere.

Continue reading Astrology and Love: He’s Wonderful, She’s Not Interested