Are you sensitive to rejection? I am.

Yesterday I was talking to a client, summing up what I saw her go through over these months with Saturn transiting her Sun, etc. She’d asked herself what she had learned for the numerous painful experiences she has had, not expecting me to respond but I did respond.

I listed a number of things this gal has endured in the last 6-8 months and then listed some of the things that could be culled from her experiences. One of the things I noted was that she handles rejection incredibly well.  She does not deny the rejection. She does feel it but she gets right back out there or right back on her feet and she is never, ever mean.
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Recently I wrote about rejection from a personal perspective – Capricorn And Rejection. A lot of people weighed in around how they handled being rejected but with Saturn turning direct in Libra, rejection is very topical and I wanted discuss some other things.

People with Venus in Capricorn or Venus in aspect to Saturn have a tendency to reject people before they can be rejected themselves. They are so sure the sky is going to fall it’s easier to fall the sky themselves than live with the threat which is often times imagined.
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With Saturn in Libra people are being rejected right and left. In some cases this is new experience for them and whether the rejection is warranted or not, it’s painful.

This made me go looking at posts tagged “rejection” and I found this from 2008. I was talking to my husband about an old love of mine…

“I have been thinking about him lately and wondering what he came up with. Do you suppose he’s told himself a story about how awful I am? Or do you think he sees it in another light?”

“He’s probably told himself a story,” he replied.

“He may have a whole story constructed by now and then if becomes reality even if it’s not real. Why do people do that?”

“It’s a defense,” he said.

“Against what?”
Continue reading Rejection – The Relationship Fails, Now Whose Fault Is It?

Capricorn is highly sensitive to rejection.  If someone lets me know they don’t enjoy my company, I exit their life totally and permanently.  It’s very easy to get rid of me in your life. Just let me know you don’t want me there and you’ll not have a problem again. This is extreme in my case or so I’ve been told but I really don’t see, “I don’t like you,” to be negotiable. I also appreciate being told such a thing as it saves me time and energy when life is short.

I know my sister thinks my reaction is out of whack.  “I don’t think they meant…”

I figure a person means exactly what they say and if you tell me that you don’t want me in your life, I am going to immediately comply and you’ll not have to worry about me banging on your door at a later date.

How do you handle rejection?  If someone tells you to go away, do you take them seriously?

Some people get a clear message that another person is not interested or no longer interested but they just can’t or don’t or won’t parse it even when the message is repeated and consistent over time. I guess you could say they deny rejection. They know they have been rejected they just think the person is mixed up or due to change their mind.

Others imagine rejection when it doesn’t exist and some see rejection as a challenge to be accepted and raise the level of their pursuit.

Continue reading Astrology And Rejection: Do You Ignore Rejection? Oblivious To It? See It As A Challenge?

Full Moon, Lunar Eclipse aside, with Venus (in it’s detriment) conjunct Saturn and Mercury in Virgo, I am getting nothing but news of people getting reality (Saturn) shoved down their throats. This is limited, there is not enough of that, you’ve got to work harder, longer and for less… in short, you have got to clutch it up and oh by the way – NO WHINING!

We can hope for some relief via the lunar eclipse but this Virgo situation is serious. I found myself calling the one person I speak to frequently and while she did not pick up, my intention was to either find out she was doing ok (a spot of good news for my inner circle) or alternately to make sure all the bad news was in because I am telling you it is not a good day to have your phone ring!

Continue reading Astrology Right Now: Lunar Eclipse Aside, Endings, Lost Confidence, Disowned, Rejected And Tears!

“Oh, it’s terrible,” I said, “Vidroid got rejected by a girl at school today. A girl he likes.”

The soldier groaned.

“Yeah, it was bad. Apparently his friend was trying to fix him up. He said, hey. Vidroid likes you. Do you like him? And the girl stood there. Er… no.”

“Gah.”

“Yeah, he really felt bad. He was decimated. He feels like shit… he feels horrible.”

Continue reading Astrology And Children: Sun Conjunct Saturn @ 8 Years Old – Rejected By A Girl

“I wouldn’t marry you, right?”

“No. You said no.”

“I did. And I gave you no explanation whatsoever. I didn’t say no, you’re too ugly. Or no, I don’t love you. I didn’t say no, I don’t want to marry you because I want to marry someone else.”

“No, you just said no, man. No. That was all you said.”

“Unbelievable. And you didn’t ask me why?”

“No. I asked you if you wanted to get married, you said no and I figured I had to accept it. So after that I left and went and did what any normal man would do.”

“What’s that?”

“I got drunk and fell asleep in a bathtub.”

“Oh.”

“What else am I going to do? I was distraught. I had a bad night, P. My friends still talk about it. To this day, they bring that up. They all know about Elsa P, that’s for sure. My family too. They were there. They all saw the whole thing. Me crying in my beer because you won’t marry me.”

I laughed. ‘What did they say?’

“Well they felt sorry for me, I’m sure. Poor soldier. But they also thought it was funny. I mean they know me as well as you do. They know I’m a pain in the ass. They know how arrogant I am. You aren’t telling them anything new. And I’m sure they thought it was somewhat funny to have some girl kick my ass like that. They must have. Because after that they all wanted to meet you. In fact they insisted upon meeting you and they wouldn’t take no for an answer. Some family I’ve got, huh?”

How do you handle rejection?

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