Last night someone told me that what they said didn’t count because they said it when they were mad. I disagreed, feeling a person is responsible for what they say, regardless of your mood. Having Mars (impulsive, angry) conjunct Mercury (speech), I have learned this the hard way. Matter of fact, every single regret I have is over something I said when I was hotted up and angry that I didn’t mean.

Having suffered profoundly over what came tumbling from my mouth when I was younger I have learned to make sure I say what I mean and mean what I say. Having the conjunction in the 9th house, I better believe (9th house) what I say (Mercury) or I am going down.

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Dear Wife,

I’m sure some of them do. Some of them, probably not. I know this is distressing but there are a lot of people out there who will avoid looking at their shadow and the pain they cause others at all costs. And why is that?

It’s their defense. There can’t be anything wrong with them. And if you stop and think about this, you will see how severely compromised people like this are.

To me, it’s like trying to be a human being with no heart and both hands tied behind your back (and your eyes in backwards). Good luck! Try again next life, dumbass!

But seriously, this is all they can do. This is the extent of their capacity and then here comes someone like you and you wind up suffering on top of your suffering waiting for them to regret, repent… cry in the middle of the night or whatever.

Well think about it. The guy can lie to your face, remember? So what’s that tell you about his character?

Fact is, your ex-man is not some powerful man who squashed you. He’s a profoundly compromised human being and your best bet is expect nothing of him. If he turns out to be one of the ones who does have some kind of awakening? Great. But don’t hold your breath, okay?

Arie, was a genius I knew briefly After a stint in Special Forces and 30 years working as a detective, he came to this conclusion: “A reprobate is a reprobate is a reprobate.”

Good luck.