From January 2008, I project my 7th house and guess what? So do you!

There were a lot of questions in the comments, I have started to address them here: Astrology Q&A – What if there is nothing in my 7th house?

From 2008 – What is the relationship between free will and pathology? Can a person opt away from what is stereotypical?

To a client…

“You’re right! You’re right about this guy’s pathology, but so what?  Just because you correctly identify a pattern in someone’s behavior, this does not mean they are going to change it to meet a standard that you set.  They’re far more likely to do exactly what they do. It’s like saying, hey! You have blonde hair!  Well so I do, they say!  Even if they’re surprised at what you’ve plucked out and shown to them, they’re still very likely to just go off and live with their blonde hair as it is.  A person is not going to just  start making adjustments to fall into line with what you think is proper. Why would they?  It’s hard to be something you’re not or to change your way of being.  Very few are going to do that, there’s no motivation to make that kind of effort…”

Do you really, really understand that you’re not running the other person’s life?

With Venus conjunct Pluto in Capricorn, this is newly relevant. You can break your bad patterns in relationship. Here’s how!

I was talking to pal about her difficulty finding a partner.

“You haven’t had the greatest role model as far as being in a happy relationship with a man goes,” I said. “Look at your mother. Her priority is to have, and preferably to have more than other people. A man is irrelevant to her for the most part.”

“He is.”

“I know. She doesn’t even care if she likes the guy. Her focus is on having more all the time. She wants as much as possible and being happy is not even in the equation.”

Continue reading Your Inheritance Around Forming A Loving Intimate Relationship: Bountiful Or Bust?

CK writes, regarding women hunting women: “I’d say…if you notice it or it happens significantly to you, it’s because it’s a part of you!”

And turns out, this exact thing came up during a conversation with a friend a few days ago…

“I don’t know about that,” I said. “For example, I attract people with problems. Maybe that’s because I know how to fix them. Maybe it’s not any different than a heart surgeon who attracts people with bad hearts. Who else is going to showing up at his office?” I asked. “And what about you? You cut hair. So you’re going to attract people with bad haircuts all the time. But does this mean your hair is bad? Maybe your hair is fine. Your hair actually is fine. I know that for a fact but you still attract a stream of people who need their hair fixed so I’m just not sure this whole thing holds water.”

Who do you attract?

James Hollis writes in Creating a Life: Finding Your Individual Path:

“If one does not become the eccentric, unique, one-of-a-kind person he or she was meant to be, then a violation of some large purpose of the cosmos has occurred. Individuation is not self-absorption, narcissism or self-interest. On the contrary, individuation is a humbling task to serve what our deepest nature asks of us. For some it will be a path which brings public recognition, for others suffering and public calumny, for others still, private epiphanies never seen by anyone else. Any relationship which prevents or inhibits such a vocation is harmful and regressive.’

Do you agree? Where is your Sun?

Speaking of families where one or more members are invisible, projected upon, or forced to carry the shadow for the group, I am trying to improve my level of understanding and acceptance of this. Because as common as this is, to me it’s a foreign culture.

My family is very overt. Everyone knows who everyone is because every single one of us has a strong Moon Jupiter signature and we will tell you who we are.

Now if you misunderstand us, we will tell you again with our voice raised. We’ll be loud at first and then louder.  If continue to misunderstand, we will probably pick up a brick and hit you with it. Continue reading The Psychology And The Shadow Side Of Families

I would like to understand this phenomena. You don’t like your wife or you don’t like your husband. You complain incessantly, you wish you’d never met them, they are bane of your existence and just in general, you feel they are worthless.

Eventually they leave you and whoops! Someone else snaps them up!

Now why are you so pissed? Why do you come unglued and/or try to destroy them? What do you care? Really. Why. Do. You. Care?

Anyone?

Dear Elsa,

HELP! I am divorced from a Scorpio and now I’m in love with another Scorpio (Sun and Ascendant) who is getting ready to propose! What is wrong with me that I cannot get away from men of this sign?

Can a person have a successful relationship with someone in the same sign of a past failed relationship? Won’t I ALWAYS look for/see signs of my ex in my current love?

Libra in Love
United States

Continue reading Astrology And Psychology – Is Dating The Same Sign Over and Over Healthy Or A Form Of Repetition Compulsion?