From January 2008, I project my 7th house and guess what? So do you!

There were a lot of questions in the comments, I have started to address them here: Astrology Q&A – What if there is nothing in my 7th house?

“So you think I do that?” the soldier asked regarding projecting his shadow (onto me).

“Yes, but not very often. You’re not the type to do a lot of projecting because you look deeply at things. You’ll think about a relationship for years and years, willing to see it from all angles. You strive to do this and once you’ve exhausted the thing you come to a conclusion about what happened. Invariably it’s fair. You are not only fair, you’re generous. You’re very forgiving of other people’s foibles. You give them enormous benefit of the doubt. You find reasons to explain a person’s behavior that actually favor them. This is rare. I don’t know that I’ve seen anyone do this as well as you. You set the example.”

Continue reading His Scorpio Moon Communes With My 8th House: Placing Blame And Projecting Your Shadow In Relationships – Redux

A lot of people seem to need a villain in their life. They need a bad guy, someone to carry the shadow or the blame.  Someone they can be above, or feel better than.  This is an awful handicap over time because it prevents a person from looking at their own character.
Continue reading Do You Need A Villain In Your Life?

For people with oppositions in their chart, planets in Libra and heavily tenanted 7th houses… reason number 1104 to curb your propensity to project onto others – it makes you predator bait!

Many are weighing decisions around leaving or trying to maintain troubled relationships. I wanted elaborate on yesterday’s video – Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Decisions made at this time will have long lasting repercussions. Here are some other things to consider.

Do you own your end when a relationships fails?

With Saturn in Libra people are being rejected right and left. In some cases this is new experience for them and whether the rejection is warranted or not, it’s painful.

This made me go looking at posts tagged “rejection” and I found this from 2008. I was talking to my husband about an old love of mine…

“I have been thinking about him lately and wondering what he came up with. Do you suppose he’s told himself a story about how awful I am? Or do you think he sees it in another light?”

“He’s probably told himself a story,” he replied.

“He may have a whole story constructed by now and then if becomes reality even if it’s not real. Why do people do that?”

“It’s a defense,” he said.

“Against what?”
Continue reading Rejection – The Relationship Fails, Now Whose Fault Is It?

Earlier this week, two people reported that they felt or imagined that I did not like them. I don’t mean to put any heat on them. Neither of them were mean or did anything wrong.  I mean, they reported their feelings which is very welcome on this site but today I got to thinking about it.

I wonder why someone would think I don’t like them. I don’t know them. I’m just sitting here doing my work, trying to keep up with the squash from the garden, missing my husband, and stuff. I am pretty sure any and all direct interaction with both people has been friendly. I probably welcomed them to the site when they first came on and that’s about it.  So why would they think this?

I realized they must have some psychological need to have someone looking down at them or disliking them and so here I am. I feel bad for them, feeling that way but I feel bad for me too because I am being used.

I am not the Great Oz. I live in a tract home and burden is heavy.