Back when I was pregnant, I had this gal cleaning my teeth. She was about my age, maybe a little older and she chatted as she worked.

Having finished the horrible scraping part of the procedure, it was time to polish. She said she had several flavors of polish and since pregnant women are sometimes queasy, she was going to allow me to choose the flavor.

“You can have pina colada, cherry or mint,” she said.

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On the topic of Astrology and a Person’s energy in a room, separate but related, when I was pregnant with my first baby another astrologer told me that when a baby is born, their energy comes into the room in a profound way.   She said if I paid attention, I’d be able to feel it.  Who is this baby? Who is this new person coming into the world?

She said it was rising sign of the soul that would fill the room. The rising sign is the first handshake and this seemed to compute.  As I mentioned in the last piece, it’s the Jupiter on my ascendant that fills the room, initially.

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Dear Mom,

Well you sure got my attention. Two babies, a house full of chaos and a frustrated man and women in love.  It was stressful just to read about the frenetic pace of your life and what I noticed was things calmed when you got to this part:

“At the end of the day we both know what counts and that our little baby is more important than our selfish thoughts.”

That right there is a Saturnian statement. It is a grown up thing to say. It shows you are mature enough to set your priorities and it shows your ability to commit.

Because this is the only calm place in your mail (and in your life) it suggests you can get relief by consciously bringing more Saturn energy into your life (which is what you did when you wrote a Saturn figure like me). So what is Saturn energy?

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Dear Aries,

I feel very sorry for you because with 5 planets in Aries all ruled by Mars in Aquarius, I am sure that patience is not a strong suit. However this is the dismal situation for people like you (and I am one of them). We can’t just leave! We think we can and we wish and hope that this is the case but what we find out is you can’t get out until you get out and I can tell you right now if that time had come you would not be asking me what to do, you would already be long gone. This said, it does not mean you have to stay with a man who is sleeping with another woman and if that does not make sense to you, I’ll explain.

You can leave. You can get your own place and you probably should. You can tell him not to contact you until he has come to decision and you should probably do that as well. Just don’t mistake this for being “out” of this relationship because that will not be the case.

You have a long history with this man and you have his baby growing inside your body so you are nowhere near done but yeah. If I were you I would get my own place, take some space for sure. And quit fighting with him while you’re at it. Believe it or not, he will probably miss that… as no one spends 10 years with 5 planets in Aries and doesn’t like the heat.

Good luck.

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Dear Gemini,

You sound like an inordinately mature 20 year old to me. Your ability to see and articulate your very painful situation without becoming hysterical is impressive so keep you cool head it will serve you. I also like that you have (obviously) educated yourself about addiction, that you know that there is a person inside your body and you have sophisticated awareness as to how this is effecting you emotionally. Since you are already so competent I am just going to add what I know and trust you to parse it.

As to getting your fiance to see what you see, I don’t think you are going to be able to do that. It would be like getting an alcoholic to see their drinking has a negative affect on other people. They are not going to see that because they do not want to see that. What they want to do is get at the bottle and what your fiance wants to do is get at the skinny tanned girl which is no reflection on you.
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Dear Elsa,

First Time Father In Waiting
United States

Dear Father,

Not sure what others think but as far as I am concerned you can do anything you damned well please and your baby is still going to come into this world whenever they damned well please. I strongly believe we choose our parents and our chart and if this sounds odd to you just ask any parent you can find and ask them if their kid was anything like they imagined! It is always, always, always a surprise. Having a baby is one of the greatest mysteries but I can tell you this: Do everything you can to be there for the delivery and pay close attention to then energy in the room as your child is born. Because when your baby is born, their energy will fill the room and in that moment so much can be known.

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Dear Mom,

Hearty congratulations on your baby on the way! No, I don’t think you need to be even one whit concerned with how you’re going to get along with your child. You will be absolutely amazed at how the baby you’re making will fit into the puzzle that is your life. Further, you will wonder how you ever functioned without this person.

Now I in case sound like a Pollyanna, I am well aware there are parents who don’t get along with their kids but that is because they don’t get along, period. They don’t get along with themselves!

It’s apparent from your post that you get along with your husband, which means you get along with yourself. So your baby is going to be nothing but another person you both get along with, so there is no need to worry. However I know the first pregnancy is a terror and you have to worry about something, so here is a replacement worry:

Instead of worrying about whether you will like your kid and them you, worry about how you can love yourself and your husband more than ever before… and be amazed by those results as well.

Congratulations again. Much love and good luck.

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Yesterday I was talking to a pal about this pregnancy… it’s his wife having the baby and I told him I felt a woman has to die to give birth. The woman dies and is reborn as a mother as her child comes into this world.

And if you think this strange, just try to find a woman with a child who tells you the experience did not impact her. Find me a woman who says she is the same person going in as she was coming out the other side of this odyssey.

And this is a Pluto / Scorpio concept of course. That birth and death are inexplicably linked so on that note, check this from John Townley’s profile of Bob Dylan.

Townley writes:

“…And a final look at that solo water Mars afflicting Sun and Jupiter might come from what else happened under that aspect the day he was born: the famed Nazi battleship Bismarck unexpectedly sunk the H.M.S. Hood with a single shot in the Denmark Strait with appalling loss of life (1416 sailors), and 5000 people drowned in a sudden flash flood on the Ganges. The price of incoming talent on earth, perhaps?”

Very interesting…

Do you feel something must die for something to be born?

The New Moon in Taurus forms a T-square with the Saturn Neptune opposition but we have been at this long enough we ought to be getting pretty good at dealing with the hologram fears and here’s a real life example of how this can work.

I have a friend with five planets in Scorpio who is pregnant with her first child. And rare is the woman who is entirely confident throughout their pregnancy. Most of us are scared to death… will my baby be okay?

So imagine having this much Scorpio and Saturn Neptune hitting your chart. Imagine the emotion and confusion for the first time mother. Am I really pregnant? What if something horrible happens? What if I miscarry? What if this is not really happening… but on the other hand, what if it is! This girl is dealing with this non-stop as her hormones take over and where is the out?

The out is spiritual. She has to cultivate faith (Neptune) that she is becoming a parent (Saturn) and this is a natural process. Erase the fear and replace it with faith that all is right and exactly as it should be. The bottom line is this:

The support is there. There is endless support. You only need imagine it to manifest it. And when you do, you will be flooded with good feelings as readily as imagining doom floods you with fear and trepidation.

This is a good day to calm and stabilize yourself (Taurus) by imagining (Neptune) there is structure to this whole thing… life. For example, babies rarely fall from the wombs of young healthy women, regardless of their fears so hey! Why not a day off from fear and see how that goes?

The fears will come for all of us but nothing is stopping you from erasing and replacing with faith in a glorious outcome.