Astrology In Real Life…
Back when I was pregnant, I had this gal cleaning my teeth. She was about my age, maybe a little older and she chatted as she worked.
Having finished the horrible scraping part of the procedure, it was time to polish. She said she had several flavors of polish and since pregnant women are sometimes queasy, she was going to allow me to choose the flavor.
“You can have pina colada, cherry or mint,” she said.
Notes from Saturn’s Return: Getting What I Deserve
As soon as I found out that I was having a baby I began engaging in the neurotic activity of looking at possible charts trying to guess which one would be hers. I found myself having thoughts of an offbeat sentimentality such as “Oh look, my dad has that aspect” or “Leo mars sure does run in the family.” I am also ashamed to say I have had several butt clenched moments of “ooooo, please don’t be born that day, please don’t be born that day.” And yes today (and tomorrow and half of the next day) is one of those days.
Astrology in real life
On the topic of Astrology and a Person’s energy in a room, separate but related, when I was pregnant with my first baby another astrologer told me that when a baby is born, their energy comes into the room in a profound way. She said if I paid attention, I’d be able to feel it. Who is this baby? Who is this new person coming into the world?
She said it was rising sign of the soul that would fill the room. The rising sign is the first handshake and this seemed to compute. As I mentioned in the last piece, it’s the Jupiter on my ascendant that fills the room, initially.
Scorpio Mother Struggles With Gemini Husband While Having Babies Back To Back: Astrology-Based Advice
I am a 21 year old, true Scorpio. My husband is a 29 year old Gemini. We love each other very much and are thriving to make things work. We have a 7 month old baby girl and a little boy on the way. Yeah, I know our sex life rocks… right… pregnant so fast. WRONG!!! He’s morning and I am night, he wants it now and I am slow to heat up.
We both wish we were freaks in bed, but something holds us both back! That’s not even half of it. You should hear some of the childish things we scream at one another. We are in such a love/hate circle that it makes me sick. I am so beat down trying to keep up with his mind and way of thinking. I think he’s probably beating himself to death trying to keep up with my tactics.
At the end of the day we both know what counts and that our little baby is more important than our selfish thoughts. We have been married a year and a half now. How much longer will this crap go on before it comes to a halt? Please help!
Well you sure got my attention. Two babies, a house full of chaos and a frustrated man and women in love. It was stressful just to read about the frenetic pace of your life and what I noticed was things calmed when you got to this part:
“At the end of the day we both know what counts and that our little baby is more important than our selfish thoughts.”
That right there is a Saturnian statement. It is a grown up thing to say. It shows you are mature enough to set your priorities and it shows your ability to commit.
Because this is the only calm place in your mail (and in your life) it suggests you can get relief by consciously bringing more Saturn energy into your life (which is what you did when you wrote a Saturn figure like me). So what is Saturn energy?
My husband, a Virgo, and I have been together for 10 years. The past year has been rough. I left him because I was unhappy and ended up after 2 months apart having an affair with a mutual friend. He started dating a woman. This went on for two weeks until we decided to get back together. That was 6 months ago, and since then he has left me for her and come back to me numerous times. I have done nothing in the past 6 months but try and repair our marriage and take my responsibility for the role I have played. I am also about 4 and a half months pregnant with our first child.
Now he says that he loves the other woman and is not sure if he loves me or is staying with me out of guilt. I don’t know what to do. Should I leave and make the decision for him that he seems to have so much trouble making for himself?
I feel very sorry for you because with 5 planets in Aries all ruled by Mars in Aquarius, I am sure that patience is not a strong suit. However this is the dismal situation for people like you (and I am one of them). We can’t just leave! We think we can and we wish and hope that this is the case but what we find out is you can’t get out until you get out and I can tell you right now if that time had come you would not be asking me what to do, you would already be long gone. This said, it does not mean you have to stay with a man who is sleeping with another woman and if that does not make sense to you, I’ll explain.
You can leave. You can get your own place and you probably should. You can tell him not to contact you until he has come to decision and you should probably do that as well. Just don’t mistake this for being “out” of this relationship because that will not be the case.
You have a long history with this man and you have his baby growing inside your body so you are nowhere near done but yeah. If I were you I would get my own place, take some space for sure. And quit fighting with him while you’re at it. Believe it or not, he will probably miss that… as no one spends 10 years with 5 planets in Aries and doesn’t like the heat.
My fiance and I have been together for about 2 and a half years now. I am also pregnant with our first child. We have had our ups and downs but we finally got an apartment together and were starting to make it a home for our son who is due in less than two months. I am very concerned for my son and myself because of my fiance’s addiction to porn. I do not want my son to grow up in an environment where his daddy sits up and tries to sneak looking at the garbage.
As for myself, I have always had weight issues, but before I found out I was pregnant I was almost (about 2 sizes away) from being exactly what size I wanted to be. Now that my stomach is getting bigger I am really starting to become depressed because of the porn. I understand that what is inside of me is beautiful and special, a brand new life that God has created for me to be a part of, but he really seems lately to not want anything to do with me or the baby. I go to doctors appointments by myself or with my mom, I have to literally beg him to come put his hand on my stomach to feel the baby kick, and on top of that, he does not find me attractive anymore. He does not hold me at night like he used to, or kiss me just to kiss me, hug me to hug me, he just doesn’t touch me. All he does is wait until I fall asleep then comes back into the dining room, turns on the computer and looks at porn.
I’m tired of feeling like I am never good enough for him because those tanned, skinny girls are so much better. It has gotten to the point to where he has caught me crying about it, but still continues to try and be sneaky the same night, knowing almost every time he does look at it he gets caught because I either wake up to it or obviously have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night… I’m pregnant!
When I try to have sex with him he tells me that he is too tired from work that day. I am also concerned because he has been very snappy lately. I read somewhere that when a person has an addiction they tend to lie, snap back, start fights, and have a tendency to cheat. I have no clue what to do. I pray to God every night that He can help him realize that this addiction is hurting our relationship and will ultimately end up hurting our son.
20 Year Old Gemini
You sound like an inordinately mature 20 year old to me. Your ability to see and articulate your very painful situation without becoming hysterical is impressive so keep you cool head it will serve you. I also like that you have (obviously) educated yourself about addiction, that you know that there is a person inside your body and you have sophisticated awareness as to how this is effecting you emotionally. Since you are already so competent I am just going to add what I know and trust you to parse it.
As to getting your fiance to see what you see, I don’t think you are going to be able to do that. It would be like getting an alcoholic to see their drinking has a negative affect on other people. They are not going to see that because they do not want to see that. What they want to do is get at the bottle and what your fiance wants to do is get at the skinny tanned girl which is no reflection on you.
Continue reading Pregnant 20 Year Old – Her Fiance Is Addicted To Porn: Astrology-Based Advice
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My wife is pregnant and is due in late September. Is there anything I can do to make sure she has a promising astrological birth date and time? Or should I just go with the flow…
First Time Father In Waiting
Not sure what others think but as far as I am concerned you can do anything you damned well please and your baby is still going to come into this world whenever they damned well please. I strongly believe we choose our parents and our chart and if this sounds odd to you just ask any parent you can find and ask them if their kid was anything like they imagined! It is always, always, always a surprise. Having a baby is one of the greatest mysteries but I can tell you this: Do everything you can to be there for the delivery and pay close attention to then energy in the room as your child is born. Because when your baby is born, their energy will fill the room and in that moment so much can be known.
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My Pisces husband and I are expecting our first child in February. I’m concerned about our compatibility with our future child. Is there anything we should watch out for or be aware of?
Double Scorpio Mom
Hearty congratulations on your baby on the way! No, I don’t think you need to be even one whit concerned with how you’re going to get along with your child. You will be absolutely amazed at how the baby you’re making will fit into the puzzle that is your life. Further, you will wonder how you ever functioned without this person.
Now I in case sound like a Pollyanna, I am well aware there are parents who don’t get along with their kids but that is because they don’t get along, period. They don’t get along with themselves!
It’s apparent from your post that you get along with your husband, which means you get along with yourself. So your baby is going to be nothing but another person you both get along with, so there is no need to worry. However I know the first pregnancy is a terror and you have to worry about something, so here is a replacement worry:
Instead of worrying about whether you will like your kid and them you, worry about how you can love yourself and your husband more than ever before… and be amazed by those results as well.
Congratulations again. Much love and good luck.
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Yesterday I was talking to a pal about this pregnancy… it’s his wife having the baby and I told him I felt a woman has to die to give birth. The woman dies and is reborn as a mother as her child comes into this world.
And if you think this strange, just try to find a woman with a child who tells you the experience did not impact her. Find me a woman who says she is the same person going in as she was coming out the other side of this odyssey.
And this is a Pluto / Scorpio concept of course. That birth and death are inexplicably linked so on that note, check this from John Townley’s profile of Bob Dylan.
“…And a final look at that solo water Mars afflicting Sun and Jupiter might come from what else happened under that aspect the day he was born: the famed Nazi battleship Bismarck unexpectedly sunk the H.M.S. Hood with a single shot in the Denmark Strait with appalling loss of life (1416 sailors), and 5000 people drowned in a sudden flash flood on the Ganges. The price of incoming talent on earth, perhaps?”
Do you feel something must die for something to be born?
The New Moon in Taurus forms a T-square with the Saturn Neptune opposition but we have been at this long enough we ought to be getting pretty good at dealing with the hologram fears and here’s a real life example of how this can work.
I have a friend with five planets in Scorpio who is pregnant with her first child. And rare is the woman who is entirely confident throughout their pregnancy. Most of us are scared to death… will my baby be okay?
So imagine having this much Scorpio and Saturn Neptune hitting your chart. Imagine the emotion and confusion for the first time mother. Am I really pregnant? What if something horrible happens? What if I miscarry? What if this is not really happening… but on the other hand, what if it is! This girl is dealing with this non-stop as her hormones take over and where is the out?
The out is spiritual. She has to cultivate faith (Neptune) that she is becoming a parent (Saturn) and this is a natural process. Erase the fear and replace it with faith that all is right and exactly as it should be. The bottom line is this:
The support is there. There is endless support. You only need imagine it to manifest it. And when you do, you will be flooded with good feelings as readily as imagining doom floods you with fear and trepidation.
This is a good day to calm and stabilize yourself (Taurus) by imagining (Neptune) there is structure to this whole thing… life. For example, babies rarely fall from the wombs of young healthy women, regardless of their fears so hey! Why not a day off from fear and see how that goes?
The fears will come for all of us but nothing is stopping you from erasing and replacing with faith in a glorious outcome.
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