This was one of the things we discussed on vacation, topical because Saturn is in Libra.

What do you think motivates a man to marry in this era (provided you think motivation exists)?

What motivates a woman to marry?

Do you think anything has changed in the last 20 or 30 years?

What do you think the future holds?

I am quite stressed at the moment – Uranus transit to my Moon and all but I did get some very fine satisfaction today.  There is a young gal out there, some of you have something in common with her because she is always a bridesmaid, never a bride. She is the friend and the good pal of men but they never quite take her serious as anything else even though she’s cute as hell and that’s not flattery. She is cute as hell which may even be the problem, they may not take her serious?

In whatever case I told her how to handle this and she actually ::gasps:: followed my advice to the letter and now she’s in the hay.

Continue reading Always A Bridesmaid, Never A Bride: How About A Cure?

I am learning about how people relate and I didn’t mean to, but I came across the name, John Gottman who is a psychologist who wrote among other things, The Mathematics of Marriage: Dynamic Nonlinear Models.

This guy studied relationship in an effort to be able to predict who would divorce and who would not with very limited data and he came up with a super effective formula. He claims that if he can can listen to a couple talk about *anything, for an hour, he can predict with 95% accuracy if they will be married or divorced within 15 years. If he listens for just 15 minutes, he can still predict this with 90% accuracy.

Continue reading Saturn In Libra / Saturn Transit The 7th House: Mathematics Of Marriage and Composite Charts – Predicting Divorce

Annalisa writes:

“Don’t you just love when the energy comes to a head on top of everyday life? BANG. The big bang. I think that when people marry there is a change in energy that covers everyone and everything they do from there out. At least I have found that to be true. To get married is a BIG DEAL, even if you make the wedding small. Things will change forever on that day.

Do you think that too? Marriage has it’s own energy.”

I do agree with her and think traditional marriage will come back into vogue with Saturn in Libra.  Her mail made me think of one of my favorite things I have ever written down. From 2007: A Billion Years…

How do you see marriage and is your view of it shifting?

These days it seems everyone I work with is looking for a settled relationship. If they are in a serious relationship, or marriage, they want to stay in it.

It’s possible this is just who I draw but I wonder if this does not reflect something deeper.

I think Pluto in Capricorn signifies deep insecurity and survival fears in the collective. This would lead people to want to partner so as not to face the hardship alone. It would follow that people with planets are early degrees of the Cardinal signs would be feeling this first.

Is it me or has there been an authentic shift here?

Can you elaborate?

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“There is so little difference between husbands you might as well keep the first.”
Adela Rodgers St. Johns

When I read this I laughed out loud.

satori writes on Pluto’s Last Gasp:

“It seems interesting to me that juno is traveling right alongside Pluto along the sagg/cap cusp. it’s even turned retro at the same time. might be the herald of what you’re talking about re traditional marriage. “

satori – Good catch. That is definitely possible but does not feel personal to me. Having a 7th house Uranus, I don’t think in “traditional marriage”.

I mentioned men, women and parenting in the blog and my comment in the comments was in regards to something else – namely the fact that everything old is new again… eventually.

Continue reading Astrology And Social Trends: Pluto Conjunct Juno – Will Traditional Marriage Comes Back From The Dead?

I love this topic. Denial is one of those things that has a bad rap. No one is ever supposed to be in denial even though we all are at various times about various things for various very important reasons.

This goes along with the discussion a couple days ago about coping in crisis. I have found you are often better off not knowing it all as “all” when there is so much going on because if you could did it would overwhelm the psyche.

As an example, I have recently come through intense crisis. And apparently I gained some weight in the midst of this but lucky for me I did not know it. Everyone else knew it but I blurred it out because I just could not cope with even one more thing at the time. As things eased, I was able to see myself in the mirror and get back on track but boy am I grateful this was not shoved in my face at the time.

This subject is relevant now with Mercury (logic) in Pisces, a sign accused of denial but “denial” with the judgment taken out might be called, faith in God or faith in the universe which so many recommend. Because if it belongs in your lap it will surely wind up there eventually so here is this story about the soldier again, this time with a footnote below…

Eventually the soldier found out unequivocally that his wife was cheating on him and he divorced her immediately as he always said he would. “If I were to find out for sure… but I was never sure.” Had he faced this earlier his life would have been different for sure but who says it would have been better? And what about his son? The soldier’s son grew up with 2 parents courtesy the soldier’s denial. Does Saturn in Virgo want to judge that?