Dear Aquarius,

You can get anything or anyone you want in life? I am afraid I disagree with you. There are legions of people out there who have lost a friend or a lover, wished for and wanted them back… and failed to have this manifest. The other person has something to say about it.. The other person has free will and as an Aquarian, you should inherently understand this. That people are going to do what they want, that is.

This guy apparently wants to fantasize about butterflies. He might like to see them flying around his beloved’s head… or perhaps they are in his stomach, I don’t know. But he does not want to be in a relationship with you, at least not the one you imagine.

Now here’s a tip: you have Venus and Mars in Aries. You also have planets in Capricorn, Saturn in the first and you wish to control things, especially others. So now you want to get this guy to do something, and I would not be the least bit surprised if this were at the root of why you lost him in the first place.

People don’t like to be controlled and manipulated (Pluto in Scorpio in aspect to Venus and Mars) so when they meet someone controlling and manipulative, they tend to make like a butterfly and fly away.

Good luck.

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In some cases I work with a client over a number of months or years. In these cases, I get to know the circumstances of their lives to a deeper degree; I better understand their character and they character of the people in their lives.

For example someone may contact me, enraged with their husband but time proves he’s actually a good man and there’s been some mis-communication or something.  Over the months the person may become upset with their husband again and again because it is a pattern in the relationship but I can tell by his responses that shared with me that the woman is dealing with a man who loves her and so the relationship is sustained and things improve. Occasionally I am presented with a true conundrum, like yesterday.

Continue reading Mixed Messages, Gaslighting, Manipulation… Or A Cowlick In His Psychology”

“There are painters who transform the sun to a yellow spot, but there are others who with the help of their art and their intelligence, transform a yellow spot into the sun.”
- Pablo Picasso

I agree with him.  I think all energy is neutral until it’s directed and some people direct energy better than others.

Do you agree? Do you have Scorpio in your chart?

pictured: The Old Guitarist, Pablo Picasso, 1903

I am sure I am not the only one who sees people opposing each other all over the place. Their conflicts are irresolvable at least in this time in space and we see this in the sky in the opposition between Saturn and Uranus. It’s all so hopeless until Pluto enters to save the day and here’s one example.

Two people are bickering. Could be me and you, you and them, them and you, bicker, bicker, bicker. Everyone observing sees there can be no win here. Even the people bickering know they can do nothing but bicker. What can be done?

What you do is bring in a 3rd person at which point both people will bend over backwards to get along with them so they can show how “not difficult” they are… how they get along with everyone.

You’re welcome, blog readers.

::Elsa P takes a bow::

I was just told I was an easy person to manipulate. I did not disagree as people are able to come on this blog and provoke me to no end – briefly. They last until I have time to notice the tick at which point I remove it and flush it for it good.

I was also told if I did not think I was easy to manipulate I should ask my husband which I did, right before I was told I was manipulated into asking my husband.

“Am I easy to manipulate?”

Continue reading Are You Easy To Manipulate?

On being game-y, my friend said she got a lot of power from doing this. She had control. Judging by the comments it seems we may not all be talking about the same thing so let me clarify.

My friend would engage a man. She would be very attentive to him, leading him to believe she was really interested in knowing him and as soon as she had him hooked she would detach.

Continue reading Astrology and Manipulation in Relationships Redux – Gaslighting: Who Is Most Susceptible?

(From 2007) Last night I was talking to a pal who copped to being what she called “game-y” in relationships when she was younger. She described how she manipulated men by coming on strong and then backing off to keep their energy on her. She’d have them obsessing trying to figure out what she was up to and I was completely enthralled listening to her  because I am the polar opposite of this.
Continue reading Astrology, Mars, Psychological Games and Manipulation In Relationship – POLL

Here is something dense from 2007. Posting it because it’s good for the Sun and Mercury in Scorpio flavored sky. I am deep into my work right now and have to stay in my process so can’t come up with something new…

Ana commented on the Scorpio Energy… vs Pisces Energy blog…

“The Scorpio energy is more like a zero sum game – for one person to gain energy the other has to lose energy. The energy exchanged is equal of course, but one person gets stuck with a negative balance…”
Continue reading Does Scorpio Play A Zero-Sum Game?

This is from an email consult I am starting work on. It is astrology put to fine use. That is, astrology used to destroy someone or pick them apart is lousy, as is astrology used to exclude people or manipulate them for personal gain.

Manipulating them for their own gain is completely acceptable…
Continue reading Astrology Put To Fine Use

“My love for you is so deep, it scares you,” the soldier said. “That’s why you won’t marry me,” he added.

“Nice probe,’ I said. “Nice but wholly ineffective attempt to manipulate me.”

He looked at me, his face a mixture of guilt and innocence.

“I know what you’re doing. You’re trying to find the button and push it. Well that’s not it! Tell me I am coward so I’m supposed to go right to a wedding and marry you to prove otherwise.”

He blushed.
Continue reading “Nice But Wholly Ineffective Attempt To Manipulate Me”