This is from 2007 but absolutely relevant today with Saturn in Libra. It’s all about authenticity and relates to the post coming up…

Do you offer your real self in relationship?

from 2007

Nina wrote on the He’s Wonderful, She’s Not Interested blog:

“The recent post on settling w/ Saturn moving into Virgo (Lower Your Expectations – Is This A New Trend?) reminded me of this post… so I went looking for it. Did you advise your friend one way or the other on this?”

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I misunderstood when I used the phrase “lower your standards” and would like to clarify. I was not thinking about “settling”. I was thinking about the idea most relationships fail because people expect too much of them. And this doesn’t have anything to do with “settling”.

Continue reading Astrology and Love: Lowering Your Expectations To Improve Your Relationships

From 2007 -

What if you’re single and you’ve had a string of lousy and/or very short-lived relationships over the course of several years.  You’ve had some involvements or even a lot of involvements but none of the people you’ve mixed it up with was very good for you so you’re getting nowhere.

Continue reading Astrology and Love: He’s Wonderful, She’s Not Interested

I’ve been listening to music I like, music I listened to in my 20′s and it’s impossible to miss the common denominator. I primarily like male singer-songwriters and invariably they’re men who love women.

Some of them pine, some of them work for love, some of them strive for love or wish to co-operate with the woman in their life to work out a problem. Some of them out and out slobber over the appeal of some gal; they’re just crazy for her and I realize very clearly that growing up listening to music like this set the standard for me.

Continue reading Balance – It’s Not That Easy To Come By: My Thoughts On Love ‘Cross Generations

From 2008. Ultra-relevant with Saturn in Libra.
How to quit wasting your time on Mr/Ms Wrong, never mind feel a whole lot better.

From 2007:

I called the man in the last advice blog, who left his lover of 2 years without explanation an “empty vessel”. Several people have posted to disagree with me which is fine. There is nothing I like better than diverse opinions but since so many argued for this man, I thought I’d explain my thinking.

If you are in a long-standing intimate love relationship, and you want to leave it for any reason whatsoever, that’s fine. It’s your life. But I feel it is common decency to face the person who has been your lover and tell them something.

This is a person who has loved and cared for you, and shared their body with you.  If you can walk away without so much as a word, to leave them high and dry, wondering and traumatized… well as far as I am concerned this is a soulless thing to do. It’s horrible. It’s horrific. It’s shameful. It’s putrid.

Continue reading Regarding The Man I Called An “Empty Vessel”: Dumping Your Lover Without Explanation: POLL

From March 2008: Tips on finding your ideal love –

From 2009 – Who is faring well with Saturn in Libra, who is not and why…

Most requested topic by far. Here goes…