I wanted to come back on the Triple Pisces. I rejected that woman, hard and I wanted to explain what drove me mostly because although the story stands alone, things are far more interesting when you’ve privy to more of the root.

I try to expose the roots when time permits which is why I think I so many Scorpios read here. It makes a nice meal. It makes things more satisfying but anyway, I went to see Double Aquarius, Angela Davis speak.

You can read her rich history but I saw her about 15 years ago in the early 90′s which was post her history, history when hers was a household name circa, 1970-72. In whatever case someone invited me to hear her speak (about rape) and having nothing better to do that evening, I showed up and was completely taken with her. Continue reading Rape And The Triple Pisces – Standing On Principles, It’s All Due The Double Aquarius, Angela Davis

Dear Love,

It is not unreasonable or selfish to want your own space but it probably is completely unrealistic to think you are going be able to have this while living with a woman, three children and a dog unless you can afford a house with a separate wing… which it sounds like you cannot.

I think you will probably be miserable if you move in with your girlfriend and also that you will make others miserable… so the fact you are looking at this in a harsh light is good. Because she has a responsibility to her kids and if she is counting on your to pay half the rent and you are ready to balk… well I think you should tell her right away that you are having your doubts.

And don’t think I don’t see your side! I have Libra you know. And it sounds like when she promised her kids they would each have their own bedroom… knowing your conditions, well as far as I am concerned, she sold you out right there.

So no. I would not recommend you move. You are too independent and kids are fixtures, you can take my word on that. Your girlfriend is also telling you one thing (you will be accommodated) but taking opposite action, so you know. Looks like you’d be jumping into a fire to me.

Good luck.

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This is for Mercury in Scorpio and today’s Moon in Capricorn. Regarding the young man from the soldier’s church who committed suicide last week.

“I went in there and his mother is devastated. His girlfriend… they were going to get married and she is devastated. I mean, devastated. Why does someone do that, P? What is so bad you have to go and kill yourself?”

I didn’t answer. Continue reading Homosexuality and Suicide: A Cautionary Tale

Hi Elsa,

I wrote to you away back in February about a friend of mine with who I’d grown rather intimate. 20 Year Old Man Loses His Gay Lover of Five Years To A Woman Who Is Pregnant: Pluto Transit

I’m writing to say thank you Elsa for your help and advice, and the subsequent outcome. I took your advice, and took a step back. I see now all the mistakes I made, and I am at that point where I am sincerely sorry for everything that went on, let alone embarrassed at how I acted. It was so naive of me to think that when I ‘outed’ him, he’d come running back to me with open arms. But I’m past all that and realize now that we were friends and that’s all and although we let each other down, we’re far better out of each others lives.

Now, I know what I really have. I give my friends a hug just that bit tighter, and I’m a lot more ferociously loyal to my friends. I’ve accepted the moral of the story and learned my lesson.

I started college this year as well, and I’m doing really well at that, and really want to get into university next year. I’m not out on the hunt for Mr Right, but no doubt things will work out when they’re meant to. College and my prospective career, family and my mates, are going to come first.

Thank you so much for your advice Elsa, you were firm with me and it’s helped. So did the two comments left by two gentleman, and I’m very grateful for older, more experienced gay men to take time out of their lives and give advice to me.

I can’t help but wonder though how I’ll get on with college and whether or not I have the ability to progress to university. I also wonder if I’ve the aptitude to be a writer… a novelist.

Thank you Elsa once more, I am so glad I discovered your site.

Young Man In(Less) Turmoil
Scotland

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The soldier and I talking…

“Well let’s face it. You’re always around gay people. Gay men that is and they do like you. And not all of them are mixed up. I can think of one who sized you up completely and furthermore, exploited his findings.”

He was surprised. ‘Who, P?”

“That cross dresser. The one that hired you.”

“Oh, him. He sized me up you think?”

“Absolutely. That guy liked to dress up in his clothes and walk to his bar. You told me they had a place where they all hung out.”

“Yeah, they did.” Continue reading The Soldier and the Cross Dresser: Men Hunting Men and Scorpio Exchange Of Energy

Dear Capricorn,

I was surprised by your chart. I thought this was going to be dense writing but in fact there is an easy fix here if you opt to take.

The man in question is a double Aquarius with Mars in Gemini. He is a virtual air balloon and he is allllll wrong for you. In fact, he could not possibly be less appropriate for you considering your transits.

With Pluto (deep) coming to conjoin your Venus in Capricorn, you are headed in a direction this guy cannot take you. He is simply too light fare and I would look at his exit as a gift from the universe, and right in every way. It is right for him and it is right for you.

I say, leave him to flit. You are headed for a deep relationship which will move and empower in you in ways you have never experienced and this guy is just not the guy who can deliver. Let him go. You are about to be hijacked / kidnapped by someone much more substantial and once this happens the double Aquarian will be but a blip who crossed your screen.

Good luck.

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pictured – Detail of Pluto in a quadriga from the painted decoration on the throne from the Tomb of Eurydike, circa 340 BC, Vergina, Tomb of Eurydike.

With our Mercurys in opposition and both of them Marsy, conflict is inevitable. The soldier and I on the phone… I was exasperated.

“I can’t hear you!” I said. “Do you understand? This is a crappy phone. I can’t hear what you’re saying, I’m not in the mood to do this in the first place, which by the way you never asked and then after going through all that, you start telling me some lecture and you go on and on and on and finally I can’t stand it anymore. I have to get a bag of cookies and eat most of them just to survive!”

He was quiet. Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra (With Mars Involved): Army Twang vs the Man Alphabet

The soldier has a Pisces rising… Moon Neptune in Scorpio. He emits a sexuality he has no awareness of.

He calls me up. “I think there is a gay man in there,” he said.

“Yeah?” I laughed. “Someone hitting on you again? That’s good. Good that you’re learning to spot a gay man in the world, I mean.”

“Well I think he’s gay. He might be gay; I was going to ask you what you thought.”

“Okay then what happened? Tell me and I’ll tell you.”

“Well you know how it’s been going since Mercury has been flyin’ (soldier for retrograde). So I decided to have a beer. And since this guy said I could have a beer in the store, I decided I would.”

“Uh huh.”

“So I got my beer and since he said there was nowhere nearby to eat, I got a slice of pizza. This is like a convenience store and they had some pizza there, so I ordered a slice and when he was getting it from the rack there, the tip of it ripped. And he said, oh. Since that happened I won’t charge you for this.”

I snorted.

“Yeah. It made me think of that other guy who didn’t charge me for the taquitos that time I was with you. (Men Hunting Men In The Wild: The Soldier Oblivious) So anyway, I was having my beer and eating my pizza and he’s talking to me the whole time from the counter. How’s that pizza, he yelled. Pizza’s good, I said. He would not shut up. Want another piece, he asked.”

I laughed.

“It’s free!” he said. ‘There’s no charge if you’d like another piece.”

“Oh Jesus Christ. Yes, he’s hitting on you.”

“Well I thought he might be. Because he just kept talking to me… showing me maps and telling me all kinds of things I didn’t want to know. I had no interest in anything he was saying and the I went outside he followed me…”

“Yeah, well he is definitely sniffing around and you have apparently learned to spot a gay man in the wild, so congratulations. I would say if some guy buys your dinner as they seem so inclined to do, that’s a pretty good sign.”

“Yeah, I think you’re right. And this is a convenience store and I was sitting in there drinking a beer. They has these little booths there… two of them where you could sit and have a hotdog or something, but a beer? I don’t think you are supposed to drink beer in a store like that do you?”

“Not sure.”

“Well as I was sitting there it occurred to me it was unusual. I’ve never seen anyone drink a beer in a convenience store in my life, yet he invited me to do exactly that.”

I laughed.

“Yeah, I felt pretty stupid. People were coming in there and looking me like, hey. What’s that guy doing drinking a beer in here?”

I snorted. “Yeah, well I guess he liked your look so he set you up there for his viewing pleasure. I don’t know what to tell you. If I were him I’d have done the same thing.”

Dear Man,

I tend to agree with your mother and think that you know everything there is to know about your situation – except how to feel okay with it “as is”, and on that I have some ideas.

Love is love, it does not go away. And it seems pretty obvious you really love this man, so I would discard the advice of your friends who suggest you abandon him. Why in the world would you do that? Are you really writhing around all that much? He lives with you!

I’ll tell you what the problem is here. You’re a triple Leo. That means you lack the attributes of the sign opposite (Aquarius), and if you cultivate Aquarian qualities it will go a long way towards solving your problem. Number one thing to develop? Detachment!

And you are almost there. You get this intellectually so you only need try to focus on that. Get in your head (Aquarius) and stop with the hurting (Leo) heart. I think you can do this pretty readily, just keep the COLD FACTS in mind…

Heterosexual men do not have passionate sex with other men.
It is hard for many to accept homosexuality, especially their own.
Etc.

Also, give this man SPACE. Space is another Aquarian concept and I’m thinking that if you detach and give this man some room, he’s very likely to come clawing for you. And how did I figure that? With my head, not my heart.

I can’t stress this enough. You’ve got too much Leo. Study Aquarius and incorporate what you learn and you will see all your relationships and your life in general improve dramatically.

Good luck.

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Dear Aquarius,

It is a true challenge to be 14, what with puberty and all. No one is exactly stable with their hormones raging and it may be some comfort to keep this in mind. My daughter is your age and I tell her constantly that not only is she crazy and struggling, so is everyone else in her school – and that seems to support her. Puberty is an adventure and also something she can detach from and view intellectually, which is an Aquarius forte. Because the fact is: regardless of the exterior, virtually everyone in your age bracket is half-crazed trying to figure it out!

And I mention this is because I think you’d be best served by paying less attention to the individual questions which will ultimately solve themselves, and focus instead on figuring out how you are going to live in the this soup we call society. Your Gemini man and your Sagittarius woman and your parents are all part of the soup. They have a role to play, you have a role to play, and with a stellium (group of planets) in Aquarius and another in Pisces, you are going to be somewhat out of bounds… this is just the way it is.

So in the case of your parents, someday you are going to shock them, aren’t you? I would say this is inevitable and as to when you want to do that, the answer is whenever you like. It’s your life!

On the generalized hate out there, I don’t think you should pay it much mind. People do have prejudice against gays but they are also prejudiced against any number of other things. This race judges that… while the moneyed judge the poor, and the poor judge the moneyed. Best not be too attractive. Best not be overweight! You get the idea. It will not help you to take a victim position. Why feel set upon when the guy next to you is oppressed as well but in a different way?

Last, these two loves of yours. I would just take that a day a time. You’ll tell them whatever you tell them on the day you tell them! And this may not seem like ‘advice” but it is actually the best thing anyone could tell you. That you are FREE, that is. And they will react however they react because they are also free. And this is also, just the way it is.

And you don’t have to take this so seriously. For example earlier this year, my daughter, who is a fairly mature 11 year old in 7th grade, ran around and told the whole school she was bi-sexual. There was an uproar, which I think she quite enjoyed. She has since decided she is not so sure and wondered if she made a mistake. I told her there are no mistakes and maybe you get the point.

Never mind the details. Try to develop a philosophy that you can live by. One that allows everyone to be whoever they are and this includes the bigots (of all kinds).

Good luck.

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