“You’ll probably be just like my grandmother,” the soldier said. “My grandfather was in the hospital, he’s all old, he’s dying and my grandmother would not let the nurses give him a sponge bath. She made them let her do it.”

“Yeah, well that’s exactly what I’d do, you know that. I’d get in bed with you too.”

“I figured.”

Continue reading The Packed 8th House Communes With Scorpio Moon On A Few Favorite Subjects Like Death, Jealousy, Manipulation and Destiny

We went back to the gym two days later with the same plan and no expectation of trouble. The soldier was going to work out with some weights and then swim. I still had reduced energy and we still were going to stay about an hour but had no set time. The soldier told me he’d stop by my cross trainer on his way to the pool so we’d have an idea who was where so we could finish up at roughly the same time same as prior. Once in the gym we took off in opposite direction and again we didn’t touch each other.

I don’t think the soldier and I would be mistaken as brother and sister but he could definitely be a cousin and if I were in the gym guessing, this would be my guess. I would assume he was some kind of visiting family simply because I have gone to this gym for 10 years and never ever with a man but anyway, the first problem was Coffee Date, remember him? I explored the idea of dating him after I broke up with the AMF. I was pretty distraught at the time and told him so but he said we could just go for coffee so we did.

Continue reading The Two Jealous Freaks In The Gym Together – Here Comes Coffee Date?

When the soldier moved in a few weeks ago he was around a few days. Long enough he wanted a workout so we went to my gym. We didn’t discuss it other than I knew he was going to work out with some weights and then swim. I was going to get on a crossrtrainer and then go in the steam room in the ladies locker room because I had little energy that day. We did not know how long we’d be there. We figured and hour or so and that was it. We headed out.

We walked inside and split off in different directions. We didn’t touch each other so I have no idea what people thought. Probably nothing as we were there at an odd time rather than my usual so while I recognized some people it was all pretty uneventful.

Continue reading The Two Jealous Freaks In The Gym Together – What Happened?

Dear Moon,

I don’t think the problem is in your chart, it is in hers. You are dealing with someone who is significantly paranoid which is not the fault of the Moon in Pisces. I don’t know what this woman’s problem is but the fact you are feeling the problem is caused by you reflects your own problem and the proclivity to this is very apparent in your chart.

With your Sun in the twelfth house, part of a stellium there it’s a challenge to know where you start and others begin. Virgo Moon is often very self-critical and the fact yours is opposed by Saturn does not help. I would guess this girl has her Pisces Moon on top Saturn in your chart and this leaves you feeling you must be making some kind of error but I am pretty sure (we’ll see by the comments) that it is clear (to others) that this girl has a problem that is completely independent of you.

I am sorry this is probably not much help as it does sound as if you love this girl very much but if she is not willing to discover what is driving her intensely jealous and paranoid feelings then I am afraid you are simply going to be up a creek.

Good luck.

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The soldier got stuck in Washington state for the weekend, on the water. He is going to miss his autopsy (that’s what he calls his biopsy) and he is another one who got creamed yesterday along with everyone else with planets in the early degrees of the Cardinal signs (or very late Mutables).

Unfortunately and irrevocably stuck for two days he checked into a motel and found himself a bar full of Germans.

“They’re oyster shuckers,” he said. “Oyster pickers or whatever it is you call what they do. They are sea people…”
Continue reading Jealous Of Her Ugly Boyfriend, P Encourages Him To Violence

Dear Double,

You sound very happy with this man. You also understand his son is going to eventually want to know about his mother and I could probably get you to agree that the connection she is willing to maintain with him should not be severed or hobbled in anyway so then what is the problem?

My guess is the problem is the fact that while this man is “legally separated” he is not divorced. Why is he not divorced? How can he plan a future with you while married to her?

Now you’ve only known his 7 months and it could be he’s just not got around to this. Perhaps this has not been a priority but considering his involvement with you it seems he ought to act on this now and if he does with a little bit of luck it will go very smoothly, thanks in part to your patience. Because while I would feel some of the things you are in your situation, try to keep in mind what weighs in your favor.

For example he is with you, she is out of the county, and she knows all about you… she has pictures. Considering this, I really don’t think he is up to no good. People just get in situations (like being legally separated) and stay that way until prodded in some way so yes. I would continue making plans with this man and part of the plans can be his divorcing.

Good luck.

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Mars with Saturn? I suppose so. I was talking to the soldier yesterday…

‘Yeah, an old pal showed up on my blog. This always happens. I write about someone and then they show up. It’s happened again and again. I am waiting for Speedy.”

“Speedy?”

“Yeah. When is Speedy going to show up? I’ve been writing about him enough lately.”

(swearing below the break)

Continue reading The Soldier And P – Unapologetic Territorial Dogs

One way to handle today’s sky is just to cop…. to your jealous (Venus Pluto) feelings, that is. I can tell you firsthand it’s enormously liberating when this stuff (that acts like the Hydra), gets air. The soldier availed himself of this recently:

“I used to hate it when he called you, Bean,” he said. He was talking about the AMF. I used to write about him on my other blog which the soldier read silently for three years.

“Why did it bother you?” I asked. I was pretty sure I knew but asked to make sure.

“Oh, I hated it when he said that. I just didn’t like it is all. Made me punch things a few times.” Continue reading Can Copping To Your Jealous Feelings Help?

Pisces, D.K. Brainard of WordsforthePeople writes regarding the videos on envy (Secret Envy Through The Zodiac):

“…Although I have no desire to BE a Gemini, I do envy the ability to be around people without having to spend twice as much time at the deep dark bottom of the sea recouping my lost energy!

Is it possible this envy cycle works in reverse, also? I envy the Sagittarians’ ability to just blithely pop out the most brutal truths and to maintain ridiculous optimism in the face of adversity….while I can doubt myself no matter how obviously in the right I am….”

D.K. – What a great question. Personally, I think people have a drive to progress so this only flies in one direction. For example, I can’t imagine a Sadge who wants to be a Virgo, sweating the small stuff. And I can’t imagine a Scorpio who would want to a be a Leo with their desire to be seen, so obvious. Sean Penn’s photo ops being praised by Venezuela’s Chavez come to mind.

But here you are with an opinion contrary and the observations to back it up and it occurs to me that Virgo can feel mentally slow when they meet Gemini who thinks much faster. And maybe Cancer doesn’t want to be soft when they could be hard like Aries…

Opinions anyone?

Who secretly wants to be who?

Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius Envy
Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn Envy