eva writes on Why Are People Unhappy:

“You know honestly I think people in this country have somehow weirdly been trained to be unhappy. My grandmother, and my mother, just had a high pain threshold and they just took the sorrow with the gravy.

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People are unhappy because all they know how to be is personally disappointed that their lives did not live up to, say, Star Wars. Or Donald Trump. Or whatever. My grandma would just laugh if she were here. Not because she thought these people were stupid but because her knees and arms were bruised and there was almost no money left, and still when she went out to the garden, her cabbages were absolutely gorgeous.”

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There are some less obvious ways happy people stay happy. Many of us use denial. Denial has a bad rap which I see as ridiculous. People could not survive without this mechanism and denial takes many forms.

The soldier and I have difficult lives and always have. You’re just going to have to take my word for that but regardless of this we are both very happy people.  He can be completely content in a foxhole in the middle of a war, or sleeping on a rock.

As for myself, back when I was a homeless 15 year old, I had distinct awareness I was happier than most and by far. Continue reading Astrology And Happiness: Here’s A Trick – Try Denial

Charlotte wrote on Can Happiness Be Learned?

“There are a lot of happy people on this blog, it’s just the general theme and mood of the comments and entries, which just confirms that like attracts like…”

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I agree with Charlotte but I think there is another angle, or separate phenomena that goes on here. One that can’t be stopped because it’s a law of nature.

Continue reading Happiness, Sociology And The Community On The Elsa Blog: All Boats Rise

When it comes to happy people, I’d say you’re going to see Jupiter strongly placed across the board. It is very hard to take Jupiter down. Matter of fact it is damned near impossible.

If you do take them down, they will be right back up the next day which is why Sagittarius beats the hell out of Scorpio. (All the signs are battered by the one that follows them… including Pisces which is followed by Aries)

Continue reading Astrology And Happiness: How Happy People Get That Way And How Unhappy People Can Access Good Times Too

It was my ex and mega-Scorpio, the AMF who made me aware of “happy people” in the world. He was astute and pointed out that I was a happy person as were various people we’d run across. A waitress with a wide grin for example. Just random people we’d see. He’d always notice the happy ones because he just couldn’t figure them out.

With Venus in Scorpio conjunct Saturn in the 8th, he’d wonder, “Why in the world is that guy happy? What’s he got to be happy about..?”

It was queer for us because we spent a lot of time together, one of us always grinning with the other wondering why.

Continue reading Can A Person Learn To Be Happy?

From 2008, I was talking to my husband:

“I just don’t get it,” I said.

“Well don’t get mad, P.”

“I’m not mad, I’m curious. I don’t know these people. I’m not mad at people who have injured me directly, why would I be mad at people I don’t even know? You’re interested in war, I’m interested in people and their thoughts and behavior. If someone made an odd decision in war you’d think about it and I’m fascinated over how people choose to live because it often makes no sense at all.”

Continue reading Is There A Correlation Between Greed And Happiness? Poll

From 2007 – Can astrology help you be happier?

Sonja Lyubomirsky Ph.D. Professor at Stanford University and happiness guru

Dear Elsa,

I liked your happiness posts. I would love to see more astrology on this. What do you look at as a happiness base?  Jupiter? Moon?  Difficult or easy Saturn, Mars, Venus?  Probably everything but do you have a standard procedure for a basic  happy-meter?

Wondering
United States
Continue reading Astrology And Happiness: Who Feels Good Organically?

“P, people are going to do that,” the soldier said. “They see we’re happy so they’re going to try to get between us and mess us up. They did it to us when we were kids, it’s just the way people are.”

“Why? Why are they like that?”

“Because they want you to be as miserable as they are. Miserable people want other people to be miserable. Oh he’s doing that. Oh she’s doing this.”

I laughed.

Someone called the soldier once trying to get me in trouble. Told him I put his picture on my blog. The picture was of Boom Boom Mancini, the soldier was flattered.

“They know me so well, they don’t even know what I look like,” he said.
Continue reading Cock Blockers And The Like, Plus Elsa P Thinks Saturn Is Associated With Happiness – Is She Kidding Or What?