Dear Stellium,

In my experience men like to have sex… with someone. And if you are someone they want to have sex with, they most definitely do not “avoid” it. Since this is what he is doing, the odds are overwhelming that despite your passion, this man has no sexual interest in you.

The other clue is he says he “likes” you  That’s decidedly lukewarm when compared to your professing your love for him so I think what you’ve got here is a fantasy. And there is nothing wrong with that.

Fantasy serves a purpose in that it is an escape from reality. But I do think if you move on this guy, he’s going to reject you which will be no fun for either party. Rather than something you can actually have, you might consider this situation akin to reading a romance novel. It is what it is, but nothing more.

I’m sorry and good luck.

Dear Elsa,

Obsessed Virgo
Canada


Continue reading Open Question: Astrology, Fantasy And Obsession

Remember that society gal, the friend of the soldier’s who hit on him? Well here’s an update, his Pisces has run amok.

“You hear from here lately?” I asked.

“Oh yeah. She texts now and then and she left a voice mail… last week sometime I guess. She wants me to call her but I haven’t called.”

“Too busy?”

“Yeah I’m busy but I also haven’t called her. I’m afraid to call her after talking to you,” he said.

“What? What did I say?”

“You told me about all that taboo. That fantasy stuff about the Village People.”

I laughed. “Village People? I didn’t say anything about them? What do they have to do with this?” Continue reading The Soldier and the Gal Who Hit On Him… Attraction To Taboo Redux

More chat re: the way up there, elevated gal who hit on the soldier…

“So why do you think she did that, P? Do you understand? I mean I guess she’s horny and I don’t blame her for that but why me? We’re friends. We have been very good friends and why would she mess it up like this?”

“Oh, I am sure she’s got a whole fantasy,” I said.

“Fantasy?”

“Yeah. You know how men are visual?”

“Yeah.”

“Well women, we like to dream things up. We like to imagine how things would be, or could be and you are perfect for this.”

“Why? Why am I perfect? What did I do?” Continue reading The Soldier and the Gal Who Hit On Him: The 8th House, Scorpio and Attraction to Taboo

Speaking of projecting, I am hardly immune! Not only do I project, it brings me glee. Pretending gives me a happier life and here’s evidence:

Last week my editor, HQ posted about the comment problem we’re having and then emailed to ask it if sounded okay:

“Yep, looks good! Your debut. Except I will add your graphic!”

I looked for the picture I use to identify, HQ, like I use the wrench graphic for “The Mechanic”. It’s been awhile and I couldn’t find my picture of the Pentagon, so I looked for something new and found it right away. He mailed:

“What the heck is that building?” Continue reading Uh Oh, Busted! Neptune On The Midheaven And She’s Got A Hologram Boss

Dear Married,

It may help you get your feet on the ground and be less confused if you remember this is only going to go where you want it to go. Do you want to have an affair? If you do, it sounds like one is on offer. I don’t condone that, and here’s the astrology… I think it might help you out.

You have no major transits at this time so I doubt your marriage is going to crack up and blah, blah, blah. I don’t think this guy is going to change your life. But you do have Venus in Pisces in the 12th house, square Neptune and here’s what I think is happening.

I bet this guy has planets in aspect to your Venus Neptune which is notoriously permeable, seducible and prone to fantasy. In other words, this thing is lying there in your chart, waiting to happen and this guy comes along and WHOOSH! The thing comes out to live.

But here’s the key. It’s your energy. He may be triggering you, but it is your energy and you can do whatever you want with it. For example you can feed this thing. You can dream this guy up into some kind of Prince Charming who can screw like ten men, or you can just as easy, fantasize around your husband and go home and screw him like ten women.

I like the second idea. No one gets hurt, but even more importantly, you discover this fabulous talent of yours rather than projecting it on to the guy.

Good luck.

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