I love this topic. Denial is one of those things that has a bad rap. No one is ever supposed to be in denial even though we all are at various times about various things for various very important reasons.

This goes along with the discussion a couple days ago about coping in crisis. I have found you are often better off not knowing it all as “all” when there is so much going on because if you could did it would overwhelm the psyche.

As an example, I have recently come through intense crisis. And apparently I gained some weight in the midst of this but lucky for me I did not know it. Everyone else knew it but I blurred it out because I just could not cope with even one more thing at the time. As things eased, I was able to see myself in the mirror and get back on track but boy am I grateful this was not shoved in my face at the time.

This subject is relevant now with Mercury (logic) in Pisces, a sign accused of denial but “denial” with the judgment taken out might be called, faith in God or faith in the universe which so many recommend. Because if it belongs in your lap it will surely wind up there eventually so here is this story about the soldier again, this time with a footnote below…

Eventually the soldier found out unequivocally that his wife was cheating on him and he divorced her immediately as he always said he would. “If I were to find out for sure… but I was never sure.” Had he faced this earlier his life would have been different for sure but who says it would have been better? And what about his son? The soldier’s son grew up with 2 parents courtesy the soldier’s denial. Does Saturn in Virgo want to judge that?

Dina quotes me on the Pisces Hook blog:

“Really? That’s surprising to me about you since you definitely tell it like it is to a lot of people who need help, lance the boil so to speak. Particularly hooked Pisceans who are kidding themselves! How does this play out in your astrology, if I may ask? Your Neptune has something to do with it, I suppose.”

Dina – I don’t think it has anything to do with Neptune. It has to do with boundaries. People ask me what I think and I tell them. I would never bother someone with my ideas or confront their denial otherwise. It is really none of my business what people do and if you read this blog it’s pretty clear I am focused on my own life and growth. I just don’t worry about what other people are doing right up until the hire me that is.

Hire me and I am on it but other than that I have waaaay too much respect for people to think that I know when they should face something. As far as I am concerned everyone has an inner clock. They have their own timing and their own agenda for their life which I am not even going to think about messing with, know why?

Because I am busy running my life of course.

Update – The soldier signed on my blog last night with his friends. He watched the video below and got himself stunned. Stunned like a Taurus, a bull hit in the head with a frying pan and it’s easy to see why.

He has not heard anyone talk about his life like this before, plus it’s me. It apparently blew his gaskets. He could not touch me, this bothered him and he said he now knows what it feels like to be Joe DiMaggio when Marilyn Monroe gets her dress blown up over the vent. Not good!

Anyway, his friends are old friends and they know his ex-wife so strange for everyone involved I would say, to hear me talking about this on some kind of little TV. Life is odd. What a way for things to come back to you. He is reeling today (but happy) and plans to avoid reading my blog in the future except and unless he feels like being hit by a brick.

The original blog:

I think this is my best video yet. Virgo and Pisces. These signs are inexplicably linked whether you like it or not.

This is meant to continue the video, “Could It Be Logical To Deny Your Spouse Is Cheating…”

Having presented the story of circumstance where I think denial serves (Virgo/Pisces), I feel obligated with Libra in my chart to present the other side, so here it comes: The high price of denial and one good reason to break it down.

The soldier has his Moon conjunct Neptune in Scorpio in the 8th house and if you have anything similar, you know the level of sensitivity this denotes and the depth at which pain registers. So you might say he has something to protect and this is what he did.

When we were kids he was in profound denial about who I was. There was no telling him anything and he saw no problem with this because he loved me anyway, no matter what. No matter whom I was where I came from or what I did or was going to do, he was going to love me regardless, so if you understand that you can see from his perspective everything else is irrelevant. Continue reading The High Price Of Denial And One Good Reason To Break It Down