Mars (fight) is in Cancer (home, roots). It’s in aspect to the soldier’s Mercury (communication) in Aries (fight) which is in aspect to Mars in his chart. I swear you can set a clock by this stuff.

“Ran into two guys speaking Portuguese today, P.”

“Yeah?” Continue reading Mars In Cancer: My Home Is Bigger Than Your Home!

Dear 12th House,

I can’t tell you what will happen in the future because people have free will, but I can tell you your situation makes me uncomfortable for a long list of reasons. I’ll lay them out with this caveat: I am not you. So we don’t have to worry about my comfort with your relationship; however, you’re asking for an outside perspective so I am going to oblige.

First, just in general, I subscribe to the “If you have to ask…” idea when it comes to relationships. If you have to ask if the relationship is good for you, it is almost guaranteed it is not. But beyond that, I want to point out a few things.

Your whole mail is about him. You are waiting to have feelings based on what he feels or he does. For example, how do you feel about being called a ‘good friend” when you are in fact a lover? How do you feel about dating and sleeping with someone who’s told you he cannot marry due his customs? How do you really feel about the fact he lies around and watches TV a lot?

You have a 12th house Sun, and planets in Virgo and I feel you are in sacrificing yourself to this man. You are in service to him, which is fine as long as you are aware of it. You also have a Cancer Moon and I suspect you are doing a fair amount of mothering.

So what do you think? Does this sound like the life you want? Because people don’t change their natures all that much. Matter of fact, they tend to become even more the way they are which means this guy is going to be on that couch for a very long time.

Good luck.

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Dear Love,

I am very sorry for how the way you are hurting and I do not think that because you are young (almost 18) that you do not know anything about love. It is clear you are a sensitive young woman with an open heart and that is all it takes to feel love. That said, you’ve got a real problem with your Dad.

Now it’s not clear if he is typically violent. I don’t know if he beats you, if he beats others, or if he went off on some kind of crazed attack in a misguided attempt to protect his daughter. What is clear is you are not going to be able to date with your father around, unless some changes are made.

If you have some semblance of a relationship with your father – which is sounds like you might – then please try to reason with him. Try to get him to see that you are growing up and he must step aside and allow you to develop. Perhaps this is possible. Does he have remorse what he has done? If he does, then you probably have a chance to reason with him.

On the other hand, if he is beating you and if he is just an incorrigible controlling tyrant, then I am afraid you are going to have to plot your way out of there so that you can conduct your life and have a boyfriend without fearing violent attack.

There is a third scenario. It is possible this boy broke the rules of your culture by seeing you without first securing your father’s permission. If this is the case, your father obviously overreacted but it is worth noting.

As for the boy… people may not like it but I am disappointed in him for abandoning you. I acknowledge it is possible he did it to protect you. You did not tell us if your father beat you or not, see. But let me answer your direct question:

Is there a chance the boy will come around? There is a chance. If you are meant to be with him he most certainly will, but his not answering your calls suggests he is not as serious about you as you are about him. And let’s not forget this boy reported having troubled relationships in the past. He seemed to be telling you in advance there was going to be a problem.

Will he forgive you and your father? You are not responsible for your father’s violent act so you do not need to be forgiven, you’ve done nothing wrong. As to how he feels about your father, it does not appear he wants to negotiate this, but rather he would like to escape the situation, leaving you holding the bag.

You sound like a very nice, very loving young woman and your chart is grand. I say figure out how you’re going to manage your father if this is possible, or otherwise how you are going to get out of that house and have a life.

And if this is cultural… well the next boy you meet, please tell him what he’s got to do to garner your father’s permission to date you. And if he won’t do it, you will know he’s the wrong boy.

Good luck and again I am very sorry for your pain.

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joana asked regarding Felipe:

“I like Felipe too, even though I don’t know him, but he was really sweet to you and you were sweet to him. Do you mean it’s the Sun-Jup conjunction that reflects his immigration status? Or is it because it’s in Cancer? It could mean he makes a home (cancer) when exploring foreign places maybe.”

Joana – Yeah, Jupiter is international so conjunct the Sun makes an honorary Sagittarian. Jupiter is exalted in Cancer so it’s really nice aspect there. Felipe was interested in where the soldier had been and the languages he could speak. He guessed he could speak Portuguese for example, and German and other languages and he said he would really like to learn all these languages himself and you could see that he meant it. He came across as a diplomat and his Libra explains that. And in fact his mail was titled:

“saludos de *his town*”

See? The guy is a natural ambassador.

He also has Venus and Mars in Virgo which is pretty reserved and helps offset the potential of the inflated ego you can get with Sun Jupiter. Bottom line, the guy’s energy is very fine, with Moon Pluto smokin’ down below and I like people like this. Basically good, with a lot of tricks.

What kind of people do you like?

I have Jupiter in aspect to my Moon so with Jupiter in Sagittarius it follows I would expand via FOOD and sure enough this has occurred. I have learned to cook Asian, something that previously seemed out of reach and I can manage chopsticks now… fluently, thanks to HQ (1/2 Japanese) and his wife (Korean) who insisted I try when I visited them in New York.

Today I was back shopping Har-Mart, the Asian grocery superstore. Remember the Asian gal who quizzed me over the spaghetti squash in my cart? She wanted to try something new. She wanted to learn to cook something exotic to her and hitchhiking on this, since meeting here, every time I hit this store I try to leave with something new (to me).

So today the jackfruit caught my eye. They sell cut into chunks and I’m very curious about it. There is an international audience her so can someone tell me how to cook and/or consume jackfruit?

Tell me and we’ll all know – Thanks.

I was back at Har-Mart today, on my scooter no less which is another thing. It’s finally warm enough people have their windows rolled down and they chat with you at lights. A Harley guy even talked to me which is pretty amazing when you think about it. But anyway, I got some more spaghetti squash today and I also got some Korean squash just because it was there. If they will try mine, then I will try theirs.

On the way out the cashier put the squash on the scale, looked at it knowingly and promptly charged me for a melon. This is too funny.

Har-Mart is also now in the Wikipedia.

Anyone else expanding their horizons? How?

Jupiter and Sagittarius are about expanding your horizons, especially when it comes to other cultures. H-Mart is the awesome Asian supermarket here. The place is huge and the produce is section especially grand. It is an enormously popular place to shop for people of all cultures and in fact they are now calling it an “international supermarket” which is just as well because although it is Asian owned everyone and their brother shops there.

So today I was in the quick check line and I was amused when the woman ahead of me made a great show of counting the items in her basket. She had 10 not 11 and though I could of cared less, I thought she was cute. I unloaded my stuff onto the conveyer belt behind hers and she scanned.

“What is that?” she asked pointing to the 2 spaghetti squashes I was buying. “What kind food?” Continue reading Jupiter In Sagittarius: Mashing The Cultures – Buying Produce At H-Mart

“We scare people when we yell, P. People are scared to death of us. Dance floor people. Girls at the pool, people. People who think they’re there to go Christmas caroling until the two of us get into it, people.”

He was citing various incidences we had when we were kids.

“Well I don’t see why. We’re having our own fight, our own way and have no interest in fighting with anyone else. We’re not going to bother you.”

“Yeah, but they are afraid. In Italy it’s okay though. All the Italians yell at each other all the time. And then they drink some espresso and make even worse!” Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra With Mars Involved: Italian Tempers and the Shadow Side

But later, tempers flared. First time since 2003 so overdue, I would say. This has swearing so if you have virgin ears…

“You don’t have a good answer, do you!” he said threateningly.

“What? You don’t like my answer? Well to hell with you! You aren’t asking anyway. You don’t want to know what I think. You just want to tell me what you think! You just want to yell!” I yelled.

“I do so want to know what you think! So why don’t you just tell me. TELL ME!” Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra With Mars Involved: Italian Tempers Flare