From 2007 - With a current  T-square the Cardinal signs, people want to control others.   Meet, Paul, a regretful control freak  who tells a story on Henry...

Many are weighing decisions around leaving or trying to maintain troubled relationships. I wanted elaborate on yesterday’s video – Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Decisions made at this time will have long lasting repercussions. Here are some other things to consider.

Do you own your end when a relationships fails?

Over the last couple days there have been a slew of comments that characterize Virgos as controlling. I don’t get this at all. I consider the Cardinal signs to be the control freaks of the zodiac without question.

Now don’t get pissed off at me, I have both Capricorn and Libra prominent and it takes one to know but for the people who think Virgos are controlling – Please ‘splain to Lucy.

In my mind, Virgos communicate what is wrong with you and then go off to do their other work. Um…

Who is the control freak King (or Queen) of the zodiac?

Melody Zindell comments on the Piece Of Work Boyfriend Is Back blog:

“A favorite book of mine, one that I am quite passionate about relative to helping people lift the veils of subtle and insidious control is "Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You " by Patricia Evans. Some of us are more susceptible than others, but it is the m.o. of the world in general and so we don’t even realize what’s happening. The book can be a real eye opener.”
Continue reading Astrology, Love and Control Freaks: What Google Searches Reveal

Pulling this up for levity. Do you have an emphasis on the Cardinal signs? Think you can control others? Har! Best think again. (from 2007)

Dear Aquarius,

You can get anything or anyone you want in life? I am afraid I disagree with you. There are legions of people out there who have lost a friend or a lover, wished for and wanted them back… and failed to have this manifest. The other person has something to say about it.. The other person has free will and as an Aquarian, you should inherently understand this. That people are going to do what they want, that is.

This guy apparently wants to fantasize about butterflies. He might like to see them flying around his beloved’s head… or perhaps they are in his stomach, I don’t know. But he does not want to be in a relationship with you, at least not the one you imagine.

Now here’s a tip: you have Venus and Mars in Aries. You also have planets in Capricorn, Saturn in the first and you wish to control things, especially others. So now you want to get this guy to do something, and I would not be the least bit surprised if this were at the root of why you lost him in the first place.

People don’t like to be controlled and manipulated (Pluto in Scorpio in aspect to Venus and Mars) so when they meet someone controlling and manipulative, they tend to make like a butterfly and fly away.

Good luck.

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This is from 2008, in honor of the current sky where Venus in Leo opposes Neptune and Jupiter in Aquarius which is very similar to the energy in my natal chart. The text below is from February 2009 and requires no update.

I claimed (quite correctly) that at least 40 men had proposed to me in my life and Bella asked on Venus Neptune Getting Married:

What is the astrology for that level of proposal mania?

I stated I had to dodge weddings as if they were bullets and I am reposting this because it takes on a new meaning when you have the back story.
Continue reading 1 Minute Astrology – Venus, Neptune, Love And Delusion: People Who Want To Marry You (In Droves) When They Don’t Even Like You…

From 2009: How I learned not I could not (and should not) try to control people at work…

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