Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people  care to admit. The cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied but what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone.  I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40′s: Now What? Astrology-Based Advice

To a client -

“What I have seen with commitment phobic types and people who need space – namely Sagittarius and Aquarius is they keep all the doors and windows open. Dating many has the effect of creating a buffer. You are dating 3 people, so is he and so is the other one and the other one and no one actually gets anywhere. Of course you see him looking at other people online and he sees you looking, and who is really served by that? J-Date, lol.

It’s just hard for two people to get involved with 9 people on deck and those 9 people keep changing so J-date has a great business model…”

Have you noticed this phenomenon?

With Saturn in Libra, many are trying this relationship thing for the first time in a long time. This may help.

Are you a commitment phobic considering settling into relationship? How are you faring?

I drew conclusions around the idea that most of us have an “imprint” (Organic Attraction To A Physical Type) when it comes to finding a partner, accidentally.  I think people leave their relationships prematurely.  The going gets tough and they go.

I see this again and again in consulting. When I work with women who have ran through a lot of men and put up their charts up either in a single consultation or over time, I can see they are finding the same man over and over again, conscious or otherwise.

Continue reading Finding And Keeping “The One” – Commitment-Phobia Etc.

It’s no secret I have been a life-long commitment-phobic. I don’t think it’s like alcoholism -once a commitment-phobic, always a commitment-phobic but I didn’t know that until I’d actually resolved it myself. I didn’t know I’d resolved myself until it hit me last night, this is the first time in my life I have ever felt settled in a relationship.

Continue reading Saturn In Libra: Resolving Commitment-Phobia

‘Well now we’ve got two dates and have to choose,” I told the soldier.

“How’d that happen?”

“Well I came across one but I asked other people for advice and another astrologer emailed me with a different date.  His work was compelling.”

“It doesn’t matter, either day you can run out the church.”

I had no answer for that.

“Okay, because we’re getting married and we’re getting married soon. Are you marrying me, P?”

“Yes.”

“You’re not going to be the runaway bride?  Are you going to run away?”

“No.”

“Because if you do… if you do, I’m going to get my old team together and we’re gonna kidnap ya!”

I was glad when he said that. it makes it impossible for me to be disappointing see.  Aren’t people strange?

Is there a tag you don’t want to wear?

You voted:

Leopards can change their spots…
Yes – Scott (52%)
No – Arie (48%)

If I were on the jury I would vote with Arie. A reprobate is a reprobate is a reprobate! And Arie knows about reprobates because he is one.
Continue reading 3 Years Ago On The Elsa Blog: Scott vs Arie: Can People Change Their Nature? My Opinion

Speaking of dumping, last night I was pitching my usual bitch about how the soldier left me and married someone else he’d known for of 2 weeks! If you wonder why this keeps coming up, it’s because it keeps coming up.

For example those pictures. There we are and a blink later, there he is married with child. It’s whiplash, there is just no other word for it far as I am concerned but he has a different view or in this case – song. According to him this is what happened. “I was just like poor ol’ Ray,” he said.

He’s right of course. He is right and I’m right too but anyway, it’s a good song with good astrology. Bossy commitment-phobia anyone?

Dear Flighty,

I’m not sure you have a problem. I am sure you have Uranus in the seventh house and you’re keen to shock, break rules and experiment in relationship though and I figure your man is in similar circumstance. He wants to experiment as well, but he’s got some sense of responsibility about it so it’s, “Baby, baby, don’t get hooked on meeeeeeeeee”.

Anyway, your whole deal is quintessential Venus/Uranus stuff, including the relationships with “friends” so I dunno. Just keep doing what you’re doing. It’s you and it’s authentic.

Oh!! And the reason you’re a little more attached than usual? It’s only because he’s detached. The fact you’re going to get out of this is a given. In other words, you’re a commitment phobe and he’s a commitment-phobe’s dream.

Good luck.

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