Dear Heart,

I don’t believe you don’t enjoy breaking hearts. I think you love breaking hearts and get some kind of ego boost off it. Can you stop? Of course! But I don’t imagine you will anytime soon.

I see the T-Square in your chart. And I believe you seduce these men for the sole purpose of cutting their throats in some misguided show of your prowess… and eventually this will backfire. It’s as if you are a massive alcoholic who has just started drinking. He/she thinks she can go on like this forever, but this is an illusion. Eventually you will wake up and find yourself bereft. If you’re lucky that will be soon but I’m not holding my breath.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic Heart Breaker – Can She Change?

I have been a life-long commitment-phobic. I don’t think this is like alcoholism – once a commitment-phobic, always a commitment-phobic. I didn’t know this until I’d actually resolved this myself. I didn’t know I’d resolved myself until it hit me the other night,  this is the first time in my life I have ever felt settled in a relationship.

Continue reading Resolving Commitment-Phobia

Okay here’s a problem for y’all. I’ve got a gal trying to break a long-standing pattern of opting to go with Danger Boy. You know the type. He’s got an edge, might be moody, definitely non-committal, intermittently withholding, secretive, etc.
Continue reading Open Question: Please Help Commitment Phobic, Danger Seeking Woman Learn To Turn Away From Lousy Men

Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people  care to admit. The cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied but what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone.  I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40′s: Now What? Astrology-Based Advice

To a client -

“What I have seen with commitment phobic types and people who need space – namely Sagittarius and Aquarius is they keep all the doors and windows open. Dating many has the effect of creating a buffer. You are dating 3 people, so is he and so is the other one and the other one and no one actually gets anywhere. Of course you see him looking at other people online and he sees you looking, and who is really served by that? J-Date, lol.

It’s just hard for two people to get involved with 9 people on deck and those 9 people keep changing so J-date has a great business model…”

Have you noticed this phenomenon?

With Saturn in Libra, many are trying this relationship thing for the first time in a long time. This may help.

Are you a commitment phobic considering settling into relationship? How are you faring?

I drew conclusions around the idea that most of us have an “imprint” (Organic Attraction To A Physical Type) when it comes to finding a partner, accidentally.  I think people leave their relationships prematurely.  The going gets tough and they go.

I see this again and again in consulting. When I work with women who have ran through a lot of men and put up their charts up either in a single consultation or over time, I can see they are finding the same man over and over again, conscious or otherwise.

Continue reading Finding And Keeping “The One” – Commitment-Phobia Etc.

‘Well now we’ve got two dates and have to choose,” I told the soldier.

“How’d that happen?”

“Well I came across one but I asked other people for advice and another astrologer emailed me with a different date.  His work was compelling.”

“It doesn’t matter, either day you can run out the church.”

I had no answer for that.

“Okay, because we’re getting married and we’re getting married soon. Are you marrying me, P?”

“Yes.”

“You’re not going to be the runaway bride?  Are you going to run away?”

“No.”

“Because if you do… if you do, I’m going to get my old team together and we’re gonna kidnap ya!”

I was glad when he said that. it makes it impossible for me to be disappointing see.  Aren’t people strange?

Is there a tag you don’t want to wear?

You voted:

Leopards can change their spots…
Yes – Scott (52%)
No – Arie (48%)

If I were on the jury I would vote with Arie. A reprobate is a reprobate is a reprobate! And Arie knows about reprobates because he is one.
Continue reading 3 Years Ago On The Elsa Blog: Scott vs Arie: Can People Change Their Nature? My Opinion