Dear Elsa,

What happens to people, karmically, if they cheat on their husbands or wives? I know a woman with whom I work with, and she has 2 kids and she cheats on her husband with multiple men and he has no idea. Like, is there anything karmically that comes around to people?
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My husband has Mars (sex) in aspect with Saturn (control / responsibility). It’s in evidence here:

“Well I have a theory about women who want to cheat with you,” he said.  “It has nothing to do with you. I think they just want to take something from someone else.”

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Learningtoground writes on Defending Your Relationship From The Other Woman:

“Elsa, you gave some examples of why it’d not a prob for you and your sisters could you give some examples of things in the chart that indicate those who constantly see the opposite?”

This is a risky question to answer because if I blink wrong, I’ll be seen as blaming the victim but to be candid, I often think women who (routinely) get cheated on are complicit, though they may not be conscious of it.  It’s really the same as any other pattern in a relationship. If it happens and happens and happens and happens to you. obviously you’re involved!

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uzmi writes on Defending Your Relationship From The Other Woman:

“I definitely agree, you have to defend your relationship. but I’d love examples because I’m not quite sure what works best to prevent such attacks. Is it body language, glares, what exactly? All hints & tips please! what do you do when women blatantly look a man up & down, short of violence? …not that I’m averse to that but cant always get away with it .”

uzmi, there are women who get cheated on repeatedly and women who are never cheated on. This is not accidental. It starts with your choice of man, I’d say. If you choose a man with a history of cheating, chances are he’s going to cheat on you as well.

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With Saturn in Libra, another theme I am seeing in consultations is women who are having to defend their relationships from an outside threat, usually an ex of their husband or boyfriend who contacts via facebook. Even if the man is not interested, it undermines the relationship and often calls for action.

“Well I like my way. I may be crazy but you’ve got to admit its one hell of a deterrent,” I told my husband, circa 2007. “Are you sure you want to screw around with my man?  There are easier targets you know.”

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This is for women who have cheated on their husband, or their ex-husband or their boyfriend, ex-boyfriend, etc.  If you don’t want to answer under your usual screen name, please feel free to use a fake one.

Never mind why you cheated.  Let’s say you cheated and now you want to repair and/or restore your relationship. Do you respect the man?  Is it possible to respect a man and cheat on him?

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If my lover or husband cheated on me I would end the relationship instantly, ceremony. I have felt this way all my life and it has been completely understood by every man I have ever known.

Every man I have ever known has felt exactly the same way but I know that many of you have a revolving door policy and I wonder the numbers, the reasons and the astrology so…

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Dear Young,

Is there a future with this man? I don’t know. Do you want a lying, cheatin’ dog for a man? Considering you’re a Scorpio with Venus in Scorpio, I’m guessin’ no. I’m not going to get on your ass about this because you sound like you’ve got some scruples. And this guy is 10 years older than you and I imagine he’s got you a bit confused. I think he’s got you in over your head. Does that piss you off? I hope it does.

Continue reading Astrology-Based Advice: Cheating With A Married Man – Scorpio Sun, Venus In Scorpio

I think the scenario where a man is cheating and his wife knows it but ignores it is very common. There are any number of reasons that would motivate the wife but what is really interesting is when (if) the other woman finds out the wife has awareness, invariably she loses interest in the man.

This is a Venus Pluto game.

Know anything about it?