From 2007 - With a current  T-square the Cardinal signs, people want to control others.   Meet, Paul, a regretful control freak  who tells a story on Henry...

Dear Beleaguered,

I feel very bad for you because it seems you are surrounded by the enemy. Just who is on your side here? No one I can identify.

Now I am very sorry but I don’t think your situation is likely to work out and your husband is the reason why. He is not really married to you, is he? He is married to his mother, to his mother’s mother, to his friends and to his motherland. And if you will accept all this, then fine. He’ll be married to you too and if not? Well then apparently you can kiss his ass.

Now to his credit (and yours for being honest about this), it does not seem he misrepresented himself. So what you got here is exactly what you bargained for, which was a really crappy bargain.

Because it sounds like you do everything. Except maybe plow the back forty and rub down the cows and as you can see… none of this matters. You are not only not appreciated, you are completely discardable to these people – and preferably as soon as possible.

So you see the situation here. I believe you’ve made a mistake. And I agree with the grandma, you should get out before you have a child – but not for his sake, for yours!!

Because it’s obvious you are not cut out to live in a family compound and believe me, these pricks are going to keep up the pressure until they win and they will win. Why? Because you are one. And they are many, and they are mean.

I say, run! Run for your life. This is not a family you want to be part of. As if they’d let you.

And if you leave, brace yourself. Because this family is going to blame you for everything while they coddle him. So you get the picture. Stay or go, you aren’t going to win.

I’m sorry.

Good luck.

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This is from 2008. My husband and I were coming off years of intense difficulty, the kind you don’t even speak of.

“I wouldn’t worry about that,” I said. “We are in impossible conditions, trying to have a life. I have been in impossible conditions myself, for 9 years. The conditions were  completely impossible but I still managed to have some kind of life.”

Continue reading Capricorn, Saturn And Compassion

Regarding that picture when I was 9, my sister wrote:

“That dress you are wearing came in this package someone gave us for rodeo week. We had to dress rodeo for school so someone gave us three dresses, that was one. The other two were gingham and ugly. (I decided.)

I had a thing for velvet and that dress had some velvet so I was considering it very carefully, so were you.

I decided I couldn’t wear western. I decided I hated western wear on that day and you ended up putting on the dress. Everyone thought you looked cute so Henry took your picture in it, remember?”
Continue reading Budding Astrologers… With Capricorn Risings

Pulling this up for levity. Do you have an emphasis on the Cardinal signs? Think you can control others? Har! Best think again. (from 2007)

Capricorn is highly sensitive to rejection.  If someone lets me know they don’t enjoy my company, I exit their life totally and permanently.  It’s very easy to get rid of me in your life. Just let me know you don’t want me there and you’ll not have a problem again. This is extreme in my case or so I’ve been told but I really don’t see, “I don’t like you,” to be negotiable. I also appreciate being told such a thing as it saves me time and energy when life is short.

I know my sister thinks my reaction is out of whack.  “I don’t think they meant…”

I figure a person means exactly what they say and if you tell me that you don’t want me in your life, I am going to immediately comply and you’ll not have to worry about me banging on your door at a later date.

How do you handle rejection?  If someone tells you to go away, do you take them seriously?

Continuing to carry on about helping people with difficult problems, I have been treated with concise instructions like this, many times in my life and nothing is more valuable.  In fact, I’ll give you a quirky example.

When I was a teenager, I wanted a credit card.  Credit was hard to get back then but I’d heard it was something  you should establish in your life, a so-called “line of credit”.

I had no co-signer. I’d been recently homeless, I had very little savings that I had scraped together by literally depositing one or two dollars at a time.  I have my original passbook, I can prove this but besides that, you see the situation here. I was a smart kid but how is that going to solve a problem like this?  I wound up asking an old man for advice.

Continue reading Getting Beyond Blocks To Solve Difficult Problems

This morning’s episode reminded me of another time I quite confusedly fell from grace. I was in 3rd grade at the time, and really proud about it. I was proud because I was starting 3rd grade when I was 6 years because I was a kick-ass little student.  I had no idea the problems I was going cause and I mean, this would not have occurred to me in a million years.

I had a lot of Capricorn then, as I do now and my intention at that time was to complete two grades a year and then leave home and go have a wonderful life. I thought this was entirely doable and showed up the first day of school, ready to rock.
Continue reading About Being A Misfit And More On Falling From Grace