From 2007 - With a current  T-square the Cardinal signs, people want to control others.   Meet, Paul, a regretful control freak  who tells a story on Henry...

3 years ago, I was talking to the soldier:

“I don’t want to say anything about that because it’s not my business,” I said. “I try to stay out of other people’s business completely. I’d don’t like pissing people off by telling them what I think about things that are none of my business in the first place,” I said.

“Bothering me? You don’t bother me. I want you in my business. I want you to figure out some of the stuff. I don’t have time to figure it out myself. In fact I’m relying on you so stop staying out of my business! Come on, P. Get in my business and get it in now, this is exactly what I want.”

When I was young I was pretty controlling but I have very strong boundaries now.  They rarely fail and if you want me in your business, I have to be invited or asked directly for input or energy. Otherwise? Nothing.

What about you?

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From 2009 – Who is faring well with Saturn in Libra, who is not and why…

I want to continue along the lines of Surviving Your Relationship With (Or As) A Sensitive Type. This is a Saturn in Libra topic where responsibility and boundaries in relationship figure.

I had asthma when I was a kid, it was severe and untreated.  I chalk this up to Mars (violent) conjunct Mercury (lungs) in my chart, I don’t know why I didn’t die.  I outgrew this as a teen, having one last attack when I was about 18 years old (which was treated) so that is my history.
Continue reading What I Learned In 40 Years Regarding Cost And Benefits Of Boundaries (Or Lack Of) In Relationship

There are hot comments on Gaslighting Redux regarding people who hate me or get pissed off at me due this blog and May writes

“What if you’re just a naturally disruptive person? Like you just have this Uranus energy?”

Well I might be but I think it is more likely it is other who is naturally disruptED and disruptive. Because no one is contained here. It’s a big world and a big internet and if you come here every day or three times a day, you are CHOOSING to be disrupted. (swearing below the break)
Continue reading Want To Understand The Saturn Opposition, Oppositions In Astrology In General? Check The Dynamics Of The “Disruptions” On This Blog

There is another angle on that Venus Neptune painting piece I want to flesh out bit for very specific purpose. It is the mention in there of HQ’s vote of confidence in our relationship.

The soldier and I were facing a very hard road if we were going to find a way to come together. For example he had to live in a truck for a year while I had to drive all over the country in support and to maintain the relationship so really, how many people are going to do that for each other? Virtually none.

To embark on something like this we had to BELIEVE. It took copious amounts of faith and maybe you can see how important it was to have HQ state his belief if we took this hard road it would lead us to happiness. That one statement kicked me into a higher gear and what if he’d said something otherwise? What if he’d said something cock-blocking, hmm? Something to undermine. Where do you think we’d be right now?
Continue reading Heads Up To Venus Neptune, Venus In Pisces, Venus In The 12th, Neptune In The 7th, Virgos And Virgo Rising:Lie Down With Dogs And Kiss Your Love Goodbye

I am going to see my daughter today and when I glanced at the chart of time of the meeting it struck me what a serious day this is. It’s Jupiter in Capricorn with the Moon heading to full in the sign tomorrow and the Mars Saturn conjunction that tells this story.

The opposition of Moon Jupiter in Capricorn to the Sun in Cancer indicates we are talking about relationships here rather than something you are experiencing or enjoying (more likely enduring) alone.

Personally, I have significant emphasis on the late degrees of the Cardinal signs and I find myself very defended at the moment. I’ve just got my boundaries up like some sort of fortress. Even the people closest to me are not close to me at the moment and I can’t say much besides it’s the way that I want it.

Not that this will last. My boundaries will dissolve (Saturn Neptune), they always do but right now safety seems to trump everything and I don’t think I am the only one.

I see others out there acting with caution. I’d even call it extreme caution and I don’t really blame them. “Better safe than sorry” seems to be the words of the day. Thank God this is only transitory (for most) because it’s a hell of a way to live.

How are you feeling today?

Michele writes on Be Careful What You Flush:

“I am thinking it is kind of a thing with Society right now… If this happens, you’re out the door. If that happens, you’re history. There’s tons more where you came from. Umm, I guess I mean a lot less patience, understanding, forgiveness… I’m not sure I’m making a judgment, just an observation.”

Michele – I agree. These are attempts to make boundaries and have some control and I guess my assertion is that people put their boundaries in some pretty weird places for some pretty weird reasons that cost them friends and lovers.

Boundaries are a Capricorn thing and with Pluto’s transit through Capricorn one of the things to be addressed is the shadow side of your boundary.

What is the psychological (probably subconscious) reason that you fire or reject people?  Now would be the time to discover this so you don’t drive your life right into the abyss.

For example, it’s common people reject others because they fear being rejected themselves which sets up a wicked, wicked cycle. This alone is enough to devastate a life so you can see how important this is.