Astrologer, cf Perez got my attention when she made a statement about inequity in relationships.

She said that when one person in a relationship gave far more than the other, the person who was indebted filled in with anger. I was stunned with this simple observation and I think she’s correct.
Continue reading Anger And Balance In Relationships

When people first get into astrology they make statements like, “I hate Virgos” or “I love Sagittarians”.  Invariably they run into a Virgo they like and a Sagittarian they don’t like and this resolves itself.

If they continue to study and watch their life unfold, it become apparent we all carry and contain the energy of the signs and planets. I may have a packed 8th house but I am detached about something as I have Uranus in my chart somewhere, and Aquarius ruling one my houses.

In reality, I am detached about a lot of things, I just don’t advertise it. I don’t put it in my press kit just like someone who hates Virgo may tend to devalue mental process… even though their ability to make such a statement is Mercurial.
Continue reading Tips For Saturn In Libra: Learning About Balance, Oppositions And Getting Along

From 2007 - “Someone told me once that in every relationship one person loves the other person more than they are loved and whoever loves the other person less winds up leaving. Do you think that’s true, P?”

“No. It’s true in some cases but there is such a thing as two people who are equally committed and devoted to each other and the relationship. You do see this in the world.”

“Yeah.”

“I heard this same thing another way. What I heard is that one person always loved the other person more than they were loved and you ought to make sure you are the one who loves the least. So you don’t get hurt, I guess.”

Continue reading Saturn In Libra And Imbalance In Relationship: When She Loves Him More Than He Loves Her (Or Vice Versa)

Selkie writes on the What’s The Deal With Scorpio Freezing You Out blog:

“I wasn’t tryin to vilify Scorpios, just balance out what I’d been reading for several months!”

This post was written in 2007 in response the the passionate discussion the original piece provoked. With Saturn in Virgo I felt pressured to make a statement so I did….

On the balance regarding Scorpio, I do favor them probably because by and large they are the only people who can actually stand me.

Continue reading Scorpios! Love Them Or Hate Them, Libra Looks For Balance And Defines Writing To Appease Saturn In Virgo

Ms Scarlett writes on Please Don’t Fix Me:

“…maybe that’s the Libra wanting us to have the balance between the very direct and the dipshit (your words) grin. I bet that grin has saved your butt many times– As in how can I take her head off for saying something like that when she has such a nice smile. I think that’s a gift Elsa.”

Ms Scarlett,  I agree. I think what I do here is dare-devilish and I would not be able to do it  if even one hair on my head was different. I can’t look too good, I can’t look too bad. I can’t be too young, too old or any other thing. I have to be sort of palatable if that makes sense and yes, it is a balance.

Every experience I have ever had also contributes to the production of this blog. I can tell you for sure I am firing on all cylinders when I write here which is something I am grateful to be able to do. I am constantly challenged and constantly stepping up to meet the challenge and I mean this occurs on a daily basis.

Although I do not have an easy time here, there is nothing about this blog that is a grind and I am grateful for that.  I recognize myself as someone who wants to push against resistance.

Do you enjoy challenge? Where is your Mars?

Liz asks:

“Is it a good thing to date people who have similar charts to yourself? I’m a late Libra rising and I’ve dated another Libra rising and am communicating with a Scorpio rising. Or is it better to look to people who are opposite rising?”

Given a choice, I would go for the person with energy opposite mine but I have Libra so would be looking for balance.

Anyone else?

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